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writes:I have a girlfriend but i like this other girl but she has a boyfriend. I don't even know if i love my girlfriend anymore, but i love it when im around this other person. I;ve knowen this girl for 5 years but i've only started to feel this way the past couple of weeks. I don't want to split her and her boyfriend up because im friends with both of them. What do i do, i can't stop thinking about her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): Heyy im the person who wrote this question, and i just want to say thank you for all your answers they really helpped me.
I have broke up with my girlfriend, and im going to try and distant myself from my "crush", although i still want to be good friends i will still hang out with her, but im going to try and find someone new and someone who i really like.
Because as all of you say i can't make my relationship with her, and her bf.
Thank you.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 If you have any respect for your current girlfriend you will break up with her now.
Its obvious you can gone as far as you can with this current girl because you are starting to look around for alternatives. It just so happens you have latched on to your mates girlfriend.
You dont need me to tell you what will happen to your social circle if you proclaim your interest in her.
Is it really worth it? You will lose your friends and chances are she wont reciprocate the feelings.
Good luck, but do the right thing and let your current girlfriend find someone who wants her.
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Dear Anon
You may have known this girl for about 5 years but your feelings only have changed for the last 2 weeks.
2 weeks is not a long time to decide if you really like her, try not to focus/spend to much time with a girl that is already taken.
Hard to tell at this stage if you just fancy this girl, sometimes these feelings do not last or have a good reason not to materialise into anything serious. I am sure you do not want to hurt your boy friend or even jeopardise your friendship with this other girl.
Without knowing how long have you been with your current girlfriend it is difficult to comment. If you are in a long term relationship, what you need to decide is it worth thowing that away for a crush, specially if you don't even know if your feelings are returned.
You need to be honest with yourself and your girlfriend about your feelings towards her.
If you do not have intimate/loving/desire towards your girlfriend, the kindest action you can take is to end your relationship. Is it possible that you are comparing/thinking about another person just to distract you from the fact that you not longer into your current girlfriend.
Think carefully before you act though, just in case all you need is to re-activate your relationship.
A solid and lasting relationship must be worked on by both parties always.
Falling enough with each other and know one another well enough is not enough. That Passion soon fades if no spice is throw at it once and a while. List all the things that you loved about your girl in the first place, be romantic and encourage her/yourself to come up with some fun ideas, see if that works.
After that if there is no change in your feelings towards your girl, then be honest with her. Some relationships end for no fault of either party.
My experience of love triangles is that it seldom works and someone always gets hurt.
If you would like further advice and/or you feel that the above details do not corresponde to your situation, please email me and I will be more than happy to help.
Take care
Angel of Love
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reader, Pinkbees09  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Well you might as well break up with your current girlfriend since you'd just be leading her on since it seems as though you don't like her anymore. Whatever you do, don't break up the girl and her boyfriend or they'll both hate you. Just be single for awhile and you never know you may find someone you like! Who's single mind you :]
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