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writes:Me and this guy have known each other for a LONG time. We had always talked, hung out, etc... One night I slept over at his house and we started to fool around. I just gave him oral and he liked it. The next day he said he really liked it and asked if I would ever try sex. I was nervous and scared but said I would and I had condoms. He came over a few weeks later and we tried it. I laid on my side and we did it. it hurt and it was not fun at all. he really liked it. We ended up going to different schools, but we still hung out every couple of months. I would text him and he would come over and we'd fool around. Were both bi and have had our share of girlfriends. We were texting a few weeks ago about him coming over, but he ended up not being able to (his mom woudnt let him). He has a girlfriend at the moment. I've never fooled around when we've had girlfriends. I really like him and want a relationship with him. So I've been trying to text him and he doesnt reply to me. Is he avoiding it because he has a girlfriend? If thats the case then I understand, but why cant we text? Is he afraid that i'll seduce him? I just want to tell him my true feelings and have some type of relationship. were both discrete about the fooling around. help me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): It sounds like he might be ashamed of having a homosexual relationship, that's why he keeps a publically acknowledged girlfriend and keeps you on the side. Perhaps he maybe trying to take his girlfriend more seriously or perhaps he feels guilty about indulging his homosexual side so he keeps you at a distance. Either way, he doesn't sound like he wants a relationship with you...so much so that feels he can't be bothered to articulate that...he would rather pretend you don't exist.
I sorry you are going through this, I had a gay friend in highschool who had discreet relationships with other boys...who all eventually distanced themselves from him. These (discreetly bi-guys) would mock him and call him with homosexual slurs behind him back in front of other people...He felt terribly about it.
It sounds like you were used and it sucks, but someone who is ashamed of being with you isn't worth seeing.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 January 2011):
 Hard to say, but he is likely avoiding you because of his relationship. FWB's usually go bye bye when a relationship comes about. Unfortunately you won't know until he texts you back.
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