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writes:Well, this is a new one. I've currently got a crush on a friend of a friend I've seen around a lot, and I won't even sell this as MASSIVELY important to me, but it is on my mind a lot whenever I encounter her. The thing is, she's active on a bunch of sites online and they give the overall impression she's a "lipstick lesbian". Some dating sites put her down as bi, although one of them was changed to interested solely in women before she stopped using it, whereas some of her older ones have her down as straight. I'm guessing she's maybe explored her sexuality and decided she's a lesbian, or maybe she just identifies as that on online dating sites cos the sort of guys messaging her on those don't appeal whereas girls do? I don't know. I guess I know it's likely not worth even considering beyond those warm fuzzy feelings you get when you have a crush, but I thought I'd enquire about whether someone who seems bi with lesbian preference is ever worth considering asking out, or getting to know with that at the back of your mind.As a guy often worried I'm too feminine (I've been mistaken for a girl before several times!) I guess it'd be hilarious if the cutest girl I've seen in this city would rule me out because I'm too masculine (not that I'd see myself in her league even if she were straight tbh).
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (17 October 2012):
 I'm going to go out on a limb here and assume you are having an identity issue...You cannot change a person's preferences when it comes to the preference of attractions. You may just have to learn some coping ski;;s and proceed without your imagionary friend
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