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41-50,
*adbilly
writes:I have a feeling that my girlfriend may cheat on me. I have no problem with her looking at other men, I do however have a problem when she tries to get eye contact and has small talk with them. I dont know if it is me being strange but it makes me feel very worthless. I have approached her about this and she just says that she doesnt and that she isnt allowed to look at anyone now. I really love her so much and she tells me the same but I have been hurt in the past and I would prefer to either be with her or not. I cant go through things going on behind my back. She also appears to be losing more and more interest physically which I have also approached her about and she says its because I dont try. I have tried and she pretends to be asleep or pushes my hand away. I feel like she just wants company and not a physical side. I dont think I could cope with that and she is getting her thrills elsewhere. She told me she hasnt got a sex drive the other day but at the beginning she told me I had brought it back. Does this mean she will just move on now? She wants us to get married but I cant commit if this carries on or gets worse. Maybe I just think too much.
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reader, Madbilly +, writes (6 November 2007):
Madbilly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answer you seem to have hit the nail on the head with the princess thing, thats how she wants to be treated. The only thing that puzzles me is that if I set boundries she will say I am trying to control her and that is not what I want. I suppose its a catch 22 situation. At the moment I am just staying quiet and ignoring her little staring antics. This so far appears to be working. I would do the same to se how she felt but I just feel really down, though she is aware I am a bit down she doesnt know that is how she has been making me feel. It's hard when I feel it is my problem and not hers.
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reader, confused06  +, writes (5 November 2007):
Hi,women can be weird,I know. But when I read your post the first thing that crossed my mind was that she might be just trying to provoke you. If so, the reason for that might be this:she knows that she loves you as you are a good guy (she wants to marry you).But she might also wish at the same time that you kind of stick to your guns. You seem to be a caring person, and you seem to love her very much...and I'm sure she knows that. But exactly that fact makes her feel comfortable enough to flirt with other guys, even though she knows that it hurts you. Maybe she thinks that she doesn't have to fear consequences from your side?And maybe that's where her provocation-thing starts again.Maybe she thinks that you are simply too compliant, and she wants to see how far she can go? I'm talking from my own experience...girls love to be treated nicely. We love nice guys and gentlemen.We love to be princesses. But most of us also want to know our boundaries! ;-)Good luck, and all the best!
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