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writes:Hello all, I'm a little conflicted here. I am in a wonderful relationship for one year with an amazing guy whom I love with all of my heart. I legitimately see myself spending a life completely happy with him, and he feels the same.The thing is, I habe a teeny, tiny crush. A friend of a friend, to be exact. When I hang out with a certain circle of friends he tends to be there and we always get along so well and he's absolutely adorable. The ceush didn't start until after he and his girlfriend of over two years broke up and part of me feels like I just feel like a protective sister to him (as I do with many of my male friends) but this gets mixed in with the fact that he is attractive.I know I would never leave my boyfriend for this guy, but I feel guilty for even having these feelings. What do I do?Thank you for reading!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI apologize for taking so long to say this, but thanks to all of you who responded!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2012): Discipline your mind and resist. Every time you're around this guy, remind yourself that you have a boyfriend who you love and want to spend the rest of your life with, and that if anything ever happened between you and this guy, it would destroy your boyfriend and you wouldn't want to see your boyfriend hurt for any reason, certainly not for lust over love.
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reader, UnstoppableHips  +, writes (30 August 2012):
 It's okay ;) You don't have to worry about it ! You're a human being! Come on! You can have 100000 crushes, but your heart can own only ONE guy! And a boy can flirt with 10000 girls, but his heart will own only ONE girl ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2012): I dont think you should feel bad. You are only human. As long as you are not planning on breaking up with ur BF because of a crush you are fine. How I see it, your BF loves you and understands you and viceversa. How do you know this new guy would? you wouldnt you would have to risk the "not working out" part if you like to see "how is better".
But like you say you are not thinking about this so no guilt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2012): Its okay to find others attractive but don't be weak and give into lust. Also try not to expect to much out of your relationship from your age, just makes it more heart breaking if it doesn't last. Just live in the now and be happy with what you got.
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