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writes:My boss is helping me with issues at work. I have actually resigned. Even before this I have had a crush on him. I have noticed the way he looks at me.One meeting in his office, he stared at my breasts. I felt a little uncomfortable. This afternoon I spoke to his PA about a form of dissatisfaction I was experiencing. He came looking for me. He sat me in his office for ages sratching around for things to talk about. He tend places his feet on the desk as if really comfortable with me.I had to make my excuses and leave as I felt he was prolonging the meeting. On leaving he really looked me up and down (literally head to toe).I am trying to make sense out of this and not sure how to handle it. I am in a relationship that is not going any where. I do not feel I would be able to relax with my ex-boss as he will always have been my boss. But then people do meet at work!I have resigned and will be leaving shortly. I would like to keep in touch but I dont do flings. I would like to keep him as a professional contact - he just feels unreachable for me e.g. Ex Cambridge Graduate earns over £100,000 per yearCan you please help me with how to deal with this situation. He is being very kind to me as I am feeling very demotivated and he is complimenting by ability and helping me with job applications etc.
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reader, Rachael2310  +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Hello! I fully empathise with your situation as I was in one very similar.
You say that you are in a relationship that is going nowhere, ok well we can deal with that first and you need to end it if you're not satisfied. This will free you up to get more confident and stronger. You may just be looking at your boss as there are things that are lacking in your current relationship.
secondly you say you've resigned. After a bit of time on your own and you still think of your boss then get back in contact with him.
Cambridge graduate or not, if he likes you and is genuine, he will want to stay in touch with you, but don't go jumpin into bd with him quickly. Start up a friendship and getting to know eachother, let him into your life slowly away from work.
I'm not liking how he is looking at you, you're not a piece of meat. Walk into that office from no on with your head held high and make it known through your body language that you're not there as an object, you're every bit a woman in her own right and that if he wants you, he damn better work hard.
Hope that helps x
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