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41-50,
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writes:Hey!! New member here. Got an issue going on at my work, right now and hope I can get some good advice.Working with a woman who is my supervisor. Been working with her now for about 2 years. Generally, all was going well, until she began talking to me in an abusive, unprofessional manner. I documented about 5 different times, where there was angry, unecessary words said to me. Made me a bit edgy around her, but I still kept working with her, remaining calm. She came to me one day, and told me she was having really tough personal issues and hoped I would forgive her previous bad moods. I agreed and asked her to remain professional and to please keep our work area a safe, comfortable place to work. We seemed to work better after that and we became a good, productive team. I was pleased she and I worked this issue out without involving management. She did get stressed from time to time but did say that working with me kept her balanced/calm as I knew my job well and that helped ease her workload. Got sick, in hospital- came back to work after an 8 week leave. Coming back was disasterous! I walked into a real hornet's nest. This supervisor had been working with 3 different employees, each of whom were my replacements, and every one of them left her department, refusing to work with her. One of these people even quit! I have no idea what happened, I did hear rumblings and that management had gotten involved and my supervisor had been written up with a warning to stay calm and to remain professional. After that, she went downhill. She gossiped, she vented and said horrid things about other employees, management. She was one irritated woman. I ended up asking her to not to say negative things to me about others. That went over like a lead balloon. Last week I got this email from her, stating out of nowhere "she felt I was going after her job" and "she felt I overstepped my boundaries". Totally unfair as I can't think of anytime, I ever overstepped. I am feeling very discouraged and emotionally exhausted dealing with her. I have done all I can, to work hard and be easy to get on with. Where I work, I get along with everyone else but her. I am walking on eggshells all the time, my production is affected and I am finding it hard to go into work. Her behaviors definitely show she has no respect for me, as she feels "I am too nice" (her words) But that good customer service, has garnered me a few good reviews from our customers. I went to our dept manager and showed him this email and he was unsettled by reading it. I know they will handle it in a manner, that she gets the message to 'pull up her socks'. And this will go into her file. I have no problems with that-the woman is a bully and it's time management saw this. We are on opposite shifts for a bit. My question is: I could use some tips and input into dealing with her when I go back on her shift. It will happen eventually. I have been encouraged to date and document. Which I will. Thanks a lot
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (18 November 2012):
Ignore her as much as possible and if you have to speak to her, just be completely calm and professional--that way she has absolutely nothing to use against you (which I'm sure you know). Once HR wants to talk to you, make sure you let them know she's creating a "hostile work environment." After a write up and you filing a complaint, she'll probably soon be on her way out.
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