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writes: I met a man who was here for 6 months of work. We started by spending time together since I worked at where he lived. Then some time passed and I knew I was in love. Always smiling and laughing. We are so much alike and yet grew up so different. But, I have a boyfriend for 4 years. I told this man and moved on. The day he left my heart broke. We keep in touch. It's been awhile now, I feel the same way I did the day he left. He wants me to move to his country. I am so confused. I know I will be content and live a nice life with my boyfriend who loves my family and lives here or do I leave everthing I know, even my family who are not getting any younger, for a chance at true love? Go to another country where I need to learn a new language (I know a little) find a job and to make matters worse depend on someone that I do love and trust but really only know for 6 months? Please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2005): Follow your heart.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2005): I think you should move for your true love. Life is not about safeness and mediocrity.
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reader, TatianaT +, writes (17 August 2005):
My advice to you would be don't do it. To make a move as drastic as you are suggesting you need to know 100% that this man is the one for you. Six months is not such a long time when you are considering sacrificing everything you have to be with him.
It sounds to me that it is really only infatuation not love. I don't know what country this man is from but consider this. People change in different circumstances. From personal experience my sister moved to the USA from Australia to marry the man that she 'loved'. Here in Australia he was the perfect guy, back in his own home country he became an overconfident possessive and demanding. The point here is that when someone is in a different country and culture than used to , they are out of their depth so their personality is not their usual self. In their own culture their personality comes forth because they are confident.
My sisters husband , when over here , talked about moving back here (he insisted that she move to him, no way would he move here)when they had children. Well, she has one now and no way is he letting her move back here.
My point is -be careful. Things are not always what they may seem and it appears to me that you are looking at this through rose coloured lenses. Also , what makes this guy so much better than your current boyfriend who you have loved for 4 years? Think about your boyfriend , think about your family and think about your future. Fairy tales are never true.
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