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writes:Hi, I'm a 16 year old girl who lives with parents, grandma, and two siblings.About a year and a half ago I met the man of my life. I was only 15 and it sounds crazy but NOW I know he's the one I want. I'm gonna turn 17 in about 3 months. The problem I have is that my parents don't know I'm dating this guy. I told them I wanted to and they said no. My dad said I was too young and my mom is being racist. My boyfriend is from trinidad but the part of Trinidad where everyone looks Indian. She saw him once from afar and said that he looked like a black monkey. That was absolutely the most horrible thing my mom has ever said. And she said I couldn't date until I was 17 and if it was gonna be him she was gonna kick me out. My boyfriend has stayed true to me for more than a year and 5 months now. We love each other dearly and we haven't had sex so that's why I fon't feel guilty. Our love is completely pure. He says that he doesn't care how long he has to wait and that in the future he DOES want to marry me. I believe him, he's never told me a lie yet and we talk about EVERYTHING. He's one of those guys that are romantic, completely detailist and so sensitive. I fell in love with everything about him. What should I do? I do NOT want to leave him and I know he wouldn't survive without me. My mom completely hates him and doesn't even know him or even WANTS to meet him. I think my parents treat me like a child. I'm aloud to go out with my friends once a month and it's only to like a movie or something. and she picks me up RIGHT when the movie ends. I can't do ANYTHING. All my time is spent at home doing nothing. Someone please tell me something.
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reader, helpful person +, writes (27 August 2009):
hello there, i am so hurt to hear what your going through but let me tell you this no matter what happens you might not find love like that for a long time sweety real love comes once in a life time and who cares if no one else likes him as long as you do thats all that matters. no sex in a year and he is good with that baby take it from a 27year old sounds like real love to me your family will be alright pray for them if it was the other way around and his family didn't won't you around do you think he would stay or leave ps. hope you work it out
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reader, fuckedup14 +, writes (10 August 2009):
First off I want to congratulate you both on not having sex. that is the most beautiful thing ever. If any man is willing to wait for his women and not cheat on her or pleasure himself. Then that's true love. As for your Mother, has she always been this straight forward about her opinion? If not it could be because your boyfriend reminds her of somebody from her past. You see women have this thing where they hold on to things from their past that they don't confront. It could be an old boyfriend, or a friend, or just somebody she ran into. I will say a pray for your situation and hope that you find a solution to your problem. just remember don't give your body away to anybody but your husband, Wait for marriage.
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reader, blessed_or not +, writes (10 August 2009):
 try talking to your mom and dad asking them what color people are in the dark.and which is more important how he treats you or what color he is i am sorry this is happening to you
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reader, Char02 +, writes (10 August 2009):
I am so sorry! I had the same problem with my mom when I was 19. I'm black and I fell for a white guy and we eventually became engaged. My mom threw a fit! She told me, she did not want to meet him, or have anything whatsoever to do with me again! If we had children, she didn't want to be a part of their lives! I was devastated, so hurt that I called off the engagement. Now, 5, almost 6 years later, I still think about him and wonder if I made the biggest mistake of my life! Soon after I called it off with him, I got with a black guy, hoping to please my mom. He got me pregnant and left me 3 weeks after I told him. Ok, so 3 years later, I meet another guy, a white guy and fell for him. Got pregnant and he stayed around, for awhile. We eventually got engaged and you know my mom actually liked him. She was excited we were gonna get married! Happy for me even though he was white! She loves our daughter to death, despite the fact that she's biracial. So, basically, there's hope. Don't not be with him, because of your parents, especially if you believe that he's the one. Five years down the line, you'll be like me; regretful. Good luck.
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reader, somegirl:)  +, writes (8 August 2009):
i know exactly how you feel i lost my v to the lad i love when i was 13 and i loved him for years, he's greek my mum doesnt really mind but my dad and brother are so racist and even my nan! but they dont know i have had sex or anything with him except my brother but he wouldnt have the guts to tell my mum or anyone, just ignore them though i have been going to turkey for the past 4 years of my life becuase i have an apartment there and i have fallen in love with with a turkish man who i have been with for about 8 months now becuase we started out just meeting for a wile, my mum hates him becuase she thinks some turkish men are pedophiles even though shes been with a turkish man for 2 years! and my dad and brother just completely hate anyone who is not from this country! All that matters is that if you love him, keep him close, dont let anyone get in the way of youse being together, if its not going to work then you will be the one to find it out and decide by yourself, no one else, love is the strongest feeling you cant just forget about it or ignore it becuase of what your family think,its nt important, your opinion is what mattershope this helps:) xx
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