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writes: there's this girl at school i really don't want around my bf, cuz i think she likes him and she really threatens me. my bf used to sit beside her in class and talk to her about lessons, theyre always groupmates etc and when i told him about that im not comfortable with it he told me he stopped anything to do with her.then after 4 months i saw posted at this site that he has taken some pictures in school, with her in it. theyre not together but the pics show her speaking in front of the class with some guys, which my bf took with his camera. i got really jealous and mad. he told me its for documentation purposes and she's in those pics because they are groupmates. my instincts about this girl is really bad and i dont know what to do anymore. my bf denies anything to do with her and ever since he always comes up with reasons why he is talking to her etc. i dont want to sound too jealous to him but its killing me what should i do?
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (9 December 2006):
 Hi Anom,
I think u should let go on the issues with this girl abit. I really feel your boyfriend doesnt wish to have anything to do with her and taking a picture as a group work isnt wrong. You should be careful not to allow your feelings for this girl cause a bridge of gap between your bf and you. To create a situation where he cant even come to you when he has certain things he would have naturally wanted to say. Also, if u actions go too far it might ruin your relationship and she isnt worth ruining over.
Believe me she isnt worth all your attention. The time u spend worrying about her u can spend enjoying quality time with your boyfriend ans strengthening the bond between you too.
My advise is that you should enjoy your relationship. Relax and have fun.
Goodluck dear.
Kelly.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (9 December 2006):
 I think you need to have more trust in your boyfriend and more confidence in how he feels about you. You're his girlfriend and you're only going to push him away if you continue like this. You have no right to tell him who he can and cannot be friends with, as much as you'd like to. No one likes their partner hanging around with members of the opposite sex, especially if you know they like them but you can't tell him what to do, he'll only end up resenting you.
I know it can be hard and you can see that this girl likes him but you have to give him some space. If she likes him and they're together all day then he comes home to you, doesn't that tell you something? He wants to be with you, no matter what this girl wants from him.
Your jealously issues are obviously your problem and something you have to sort out for yourself before they ruin every relationship you have in the future. I don't know whether you've been let down before or whatever but you can't stop your boyfriend having any contact with other females! That's crazy and you need to sort this.
I do know how you feel, we've all been there: wondering why our man likes spending time with this other girl and getting really jealous. But he seems to really love and want to please you but you can't tell him who to hang around with or talk to. So what if she likes him, he likes you and that's all that matters.
Good luck and maybe talk to someone about your issues.
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