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writes: I am a divorced mom of 2 girls ages 14 & 10 for the past 5 years. I am currently living with someone else and have since I left my ex. My ex & I have joint custody of the kids & living time is shared between us. My ex recently started seeing someone new and I cannot stand the thought of her being in my old house, with my kids, in my room. Fights always occur about this. What do I do to get over this anger?
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reader, kerra +, writes (25 April 2005):
It isn't easy to move on with your life after a divorce. Having children from the marriage makes it next to impossible. I would much rather live someplace else that did not hold memories of my ex. Your feelings are of jealousy and I really understand that. However, do you think he doesn't think or know that you once walked where she is, sat where she does or sleep where she dozes? Also, think about her....do you think she doesn't think about you? I mean, you're right, she is in your OLD house and in your OLD rooms! (Basically, your OLD life)Taking the 2, I would definitely choose to be the exwife, out of the house, new love and free of him than to be the "new interest" dealing with "his past" in my face continually. You may not see it now, but you have the upper hand in the entire situation, my suggestion, run with it!!!Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2005): I understand what you feel. I don't think you should feel any anger just because your ex is seeing someone new and moving on with his life. You should concentrate more and give your energy to your kids since they are their for you and love you so much. Be happy, push those negative thoughts away from your head.
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reader, lil thumper +, writes (31 March 2005):
It's understandable for you to feel that way but you are also living with someone else, trying to move on, so you really shouldnt be mad. But it's all right. Just remember he probably is angry with it too. Just cool your jets when you're around him. And plus you have someone else! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2005): Its OK to be angry but keep reminding yourself your ex had kids with you and not with this other woman and it's his loss! Don't take your anger out on him or yourself because this is the way it's supposed to be. It wouldn't have turned out like this if it wasn't supposed to be this way!!!
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reader, sarah +, writes (29 March 2005):
You're both in the same situation. He probably feels a bit threatened by your new partner. It's always hard to accept another man/woman with your children but your their mum. No one else is gonna replace you. You're the one they love!
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