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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:There is a girl in my History class that I recently became attracted to. We haven't had any prolonged contact besides this year of school. She is sending me some mixed messages that I don't understand. She'll tell me about her personal life and all that, but it seems she doesn't want to hear about mine. Example: she told me what music she listens to and I replied with some sentence. I tell her what I like and she just replied with, "K". She also hits me a lot, childish yes, even when I don't say anything to her. Also, for our group project the teacher advised we exchange contact info. and she quickly asked for mine but ignored the other member of our group. One more problem. I hate rejection. I could ask her for a date anytime with no problem. And I can keep a conversation, for what it's worth, but I have a fear of being rejected solely on my looks. I like to think I have high self-esteem but apparently not.
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reader, Crafter  +, writes (17 December 2008):
 I've got a friend and we've known each other for over ten years now. And let me tell you, pal, he is butt ugly. I mean it. I love him with all my heart, but he's just not someone I'd call attractive. Bet get this: he's amazing with the ladies. I mean amazing! Know why? He's doesn't give a damn about his looks. He never did.
He's genuinely a charming person. You spend one minute with him and you'll know what I'm talking about.
So here's what I'm trying to say: If you feel ugly, you will reflect it on everyone around you. When you dislike yourself people have a way of noticing and they somehow grab hold of that idea. So the only person on this planet that can rate your beauty is you. The moment you forget all about looks, you'll be on your way to happiness.
And as for that girl. Maybe she's not all that interested in you. Girls are weird sometimes and they can go out of their way just to get some attention. That hardly means they like you.
But give it a go anyway. You said you don't care and you can ask her out on a date any time. So?
You need to think about this. If she says "Get outta my face, jackass" oh,well... But what if she says "OK, I'd love to"? You'll finally get someone to wash your socks.
Best of luck, Quasimodo
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (17 December 2008):
 Get to know her a little better first, and give her a chance to get to know you too. If you're worried about being rejected on looks alone...Well, looks only make up part of a package, I always look for a good personality to go with physical features, as without that, a guy is pretty much unnattractive to me!
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