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writes:I've been asking people in my college if they have a brother or a sister and everyone has at least one sibling that is the same gender as them (e.g. male with older/younger brother)whilst I have one younger sister, no brothers (I'm male). Personally I think this has affected me socially and when interacting with others as I always feel left out when with my friends. At times i actually hate my sister because she is not a male as I never seem to have a connection with her like most people have with their siblings. My friend Mark for instance has a younger brother and a sister and he seems to bond well with both of them.I'm now worried that this will affect me for the rest of my life (I don't even want to have children when I'm older because of this scenario) Is this normal behaviour and if not whats wrong with me and what can I do to solve it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2006): so what your sister is a girl. you should be glad that you have a younger sibling that is a girl. i mean most boys are or like to be protective of their little sisters. i think that everyone who has a younger brothers have gotten to your head and you feel left out because of it. just make a bond with your little sister and tell everyone that you're her protector, proudly. you shouldnt feel ashamed or left out. your sister couldnt help that she was born female. love your sister because shes your "little sister" who needs a "big brother" to protect her in every aspect of her life. just ignore your friends. girls can also be tomboys! take her out to play football or soccer, or play video games with her. i was raised with an only big brother and we did a lot of boy things together, like go shoot birds with a bibi gun, play ball, ride horses, and a bunch of other stuff. my point is that you dont need to hate you sister and you can do boy stuff with her and create a bond with her. it doesnt matter if she's a girl. me and my brother are six years apart and we did alot of things together during our childhood. alot of "boy stuff" it doesnt make a difference just because she's a girl! your friend would see past that when they see her doing the things that you do. i hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2006): well you have to accept her, i mean she is your sister. Do the both of you talk alot-if not start. This is a bandwagon case-like brothers, "EVERYONE" has one, so you want one now,do to social standards and to be like everyone else right?-You shouldnt hate her for her gender, she cant control it you know-you should be one of the happiest people, you can have a different relationship with her-no one else can probably relate to the way you and her have lived- they dont know what it is like to have a sister
please just bare with it, hopefully this advice will help to make your relationship stronger with her
good luck
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