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writes:Basically my mum married my step dad when i was about 7 or 8 but when he proposed to her she would ask me if i was ok with it first, and i stupidly said yes because i liked him at the time he was nice to me back then, but then my mum had his son (my step brother) and everything changed, he was always nice to me till he came along it was like he didnt need me anymore, my mum doesnt see what i see, he is a nasty peice of work. He treats me like crap, he shouts at me for every little thing, whenever me and my mum argue he looks so smug and then hums and smiles, he is so happy when me and my mum fight but whenever my brother does something wrong and my mum tells him off, my step dad tells my mum of for telling my brother off! He calls me selfish, makes nasty comments about my weight even though im a size 12, he even admits my brother is golden boy and that my brother can do no wrong. i despise him he makes my life hell, I dont trust him. He is always angry and shouting. I hate him. How do i put up with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou so much for your advice it has helped me i will definately do all the things you have suggested! X
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reader, crummyscreenname  +, writes (20 February 2012):
i agree with keeping track of what happens ina journal at home, but i would say make a second copy on looseleaf paper and take the looseleaf sheets to school and keep them in your locker, or find some other safe place for them, so that they are safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2012): SO your stepfather is an asshole, fine but unlike your mother you're not stuck with him, you're what 16, 17? Get a job if you can or when you go to college just move OUT, you won't need to put up with him anymore. Try not to argue with your mother so that you won't give him the pleasure of seeing you two fight. Where is your mom, doesn't she see that he says horrible things to you? Live with your father is an option? When he says nasty things to you, I think he's just trying to pick up a fight, as he's always angry and shouting, don't let him sour your mood or let whatever he says undermine you.
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reader, Elmira  +, writes (20 February 2012):
I think you should have a private talk with just you and your mom. Talk to her about everything you just mentioned and if she doesn't listen to you talk to your school consulor to set up a family meeting first with you and your mom. Then if it goes right have a meeting including your step father.Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012): Tell Mom you Want Counselling. Then tell your counsellor. Its actually a very common phenom for your Step Dad to act as he is currently. Its sickening really.
So the best way to combat it is get your counsellor to recognize what is going on, and then Mom will come in and hear what this behaviour is doing to you.
Your health may decline as your Step Dad continues to bully and torment you so we want that to stop ASAP.
Then Maybe Mom will see FAMILY counselling is needed.
Hang in there Love!
*hugs*
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reader, londonmiss  +, writes (19 February 2012):
 OK,
Although it is a completely different situation, I think it might relate.
In the summer, I worked at a firm in London, and two of the other guys (who had the same job as me but a permanent position) would make nasty comments and generally weren't pleasant to be around, like your stepfather.
Eventually, I made a word document in which everytime they would do something nasty or mean, I would take note of what they did and the date.
If he is mean, or nasty, or ever out of order, just put it on the document, or in a diary, or a scrapbook. That way, if he is really out of order, you have a record of everything you can show your mum.
In the meantime, grin and bear it, because you know you have the upper hand.
BL x
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