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*onfused...
writes:I HATE MY MOTHER she plays favorites my older brother being her favorite; she would always say we dont have enough money to get ME this but...she even bought him a CAR I ALWAYS wished i was born to a different family one where they would actually acknowledge my existence and not berate me for what i'm not...and can never be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): Well - I can empathize with detesting your own mother. My mother too loves her son more than she loves her daughters. She calls me (a female) every derogatory name under the sun, belittles me, steals from me, trashes items I paid for with my own earnings, physically abuses me...and yes I hate her sometimes.
But, the reality is that while we all wish our mothers were perfect and loved us all equally, mothers are human with their own strengths and weaknesses. There's no pill someone can to take when she becomes pregnant that will make her the ideal mother.
The only advice I can give you *onfused is to focus on the positive in your life. Find a healthy outlet outside of the home environment, perhaps at school (sports or some type of club), volunteer, a job - but find healthy outlets. This will balance the home crap - and trust me you need balance. Find out now what you love to do: dance, sing, swim, paint, math. But knowing this will help you have fun every day of your life, and bring the right kinds of people to you. And save every cent you can, so that you can move out and be independent.
In my experience, sitting down to talk to someone so far gone, in the hope that she will have an epiphany and be a kinder person, is a total waste of energy and hope. Just breathe, wish her well, but stay focused on keeping your own mental state positive, and build bridges to help you permanently move on from this phase of your life.
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reader, romance_boy18  +, writes (26 April 2009):
 normally id agree with u, but remember youll only really have 1 mother. you should tell her how you feel, being given unfairness can hurt. ive been there.
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reader, Manya  +, writes (26 April 2009):
Please don't hate your mother! I know people who have just lost theirs, and would do anything to just have had one more day with their mother.
Please appreciate the things she does do for you, a roof over your head, for example...
Please take some deep breaths and try to get a good perspective. I'm sure your mother loves you very very much. When you get your driver's license, then remind her that she bought your older brother a car. Does he need it for a job or anything, or to help her out?
Sometimes a younger sibling can feel taken for granted, or that the parent thinks they are fine, when they have needs also. But please be patient and talk to your friends and try to find a way out of this.
Sometimes a family dynamic can be very difficult, but perhaps it is only temporary. Do you have an aunt or an uncle you can talk to?
Please give attention to YOURSELF, and love yourself for the wonderful person you are!!
Love,
Manya
P.S. Please write the Agony Aunts back!!
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