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*ischa1987
writes:I hate my body?I despise it that I find I am crying over it now! This guy says he is falling in love with me, and he hasn't even seen my body and says he doesn't mind my curves and that he thinks I am beautiful and never met anyone like me in his life.....but I find all this so hard to take in that if and when I want to be with him I am fearful that he wont want my body as well as I am overweight, not obese but I just wish it carried better you know? I am 5'4 1/2 and 12st 12lbs my measurements are as follow 40-38(under breast)- waist 35 - 42 hips.I hate that I dont have a smaller waist and I hate my little problem called "back fat" :/My doctor said I have Polycystic Ovaries (pcos) and I know that causes problems, I have also gotten my bad skin back after stopping the pill a year ago, and wish I could just get my clear skin and get rid of this excess weight as well! so I can feel good in clothes again and feel sexy for the guy I like just so he can be wowed by my naked body by me.....What can I do, how can I change this? I truly want to be me again and I feel so damn tired and lethargic all the time.....I want to feel like a woman with hot curves and feel attractive in my naked skin?
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reader, FluffyPie  +, writes (27 March 2011):
 I also had PCOS, but I went to the doctor and they didn't give me birth controll pill - they recommended diet + sport + some pills (not BC). That's why I was overweight (mind you - I was obese) and my self-esteem was actually non-existent, so when my boyfriend told me I was beautiful, I didn't believe him, thinking that "he's just saying". But he wasn't JUST saying. He always thought I see the glass half empty. He loved my curves. Now that I've lost weight through sport only (can't go on a diet, because I can't hold back from sweets - I have diabetes issues, and I also take pills), he told me "you look much much better than before and you're very beautiful". Go figure!Anyway, I understand your situation, so I recommend, in order to boost your ego and spare your boyfriend from low self-esteem outbursts, SPORT - don't run, just walk like you're in a hurry. DIET - eat less bread (if possible, one slice per meal), don't wear large clothes (not only they make you look fat, but you'll also have the tendency to "fill" them up). And last, but not least - ATTITUDE. FEEL sexy, pretend you are sexy and in time, you will feel and eventually, you'll be sexy. For this, I also recommend some professional counseling (self-esteems issues run deeper than we think). Good luck!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 March 2011):
 Believe him, he sees all of you, not just what you consider your physical flaws.
Only YOU can makes these changes. Obviously certain things you can not change. We ALL have something about our bodies we don't like.
I have HIPS. I always wished I didn't but hey, can't really take the pelvic bone out can I?
Start slow. Start by walking 45 minutes a day 3 days a week. It WILL give you more energy. & it is free.
Then up it to 5 days a week or toss in a bike ride instead of walking (no need to race, jsut ride).
Swimming. Swimming burns calories. I gives you a nice toning of the muscles too.
Now if you really want to change, get a gym membership, take a friend and work out 3-5 times a week (can start slow too) weight work out can help sculpt your body.
Drink lots of water (great for the skin) Eat lots of fuit veggies, again great for the skin and the body in general.
LAST but not least, you are who you are. Learn to accept it and love it. Find the GOOD things about your looks, emphasize THOSE. No one is perfect and that is what makes us all special :) You are uniquely YOU.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): i know how u feel about not liking your body. i put on a lot of extra weight during my first semester of college. the guy im dating said he was fine with it, and even commented that he liked it. but i wasnt. i started going to the gym, eating better, and drinking nothing but water and lost a lot of weight. he still likes me no more, no less, but its just about YOU being happy. your measurements dont seem bad, but i guess its just body image. you have to love YOU first, before you can even think about loving someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): If this guy is falling in love with you, you don't need to change for him sweetie :)
But I would suggest toning exercises for you since you don't need to lose weight drastically.
And for your skin, go to the dermotologists, they should be able to help.
Good luck and learn to love yourself sweetie xx
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