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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm driving myself mad with this, someone help! My boyfriend only had 2 sexual partners before me, his first relationship; the girl he lost his virginity to, and a one night stand which he had when he found out his ex partner had a new boyfriend.The problem I have is this girl he had a one night stand with is now in a relationship with his best friend. My boyfriend spends the vast majority of his spare time with his friend and his girlfriend is nearly always there too.I know I'm not jealous of this girl, I know my boyfriend has no interest in her at all and I know he's crazy about me, but I absolutely cannot stand him being there when she's there. I know it's ridiculous but the thought of them together sickens me. He is very good friends with his first girlfriend and I have no problem whatsoever with him seeing her but I hate it when he's in the same room as this other girl and I don't know why! It's starting to cause problems in that when he's been to his mates house I'll ask if she was there and did he speak to her etc which is stupid!! What can I do??
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reader, like I see it  +, writes (1 December 2013):
 I know it's tough and awkward, and I feel for you, but for the health of your relationship you really need to let it go.
Think about it... your boyfriend had a ONE night stand with this girl. He didn't see a future with her, didn't want or develop an emotional connection with her, didn't want her for ANYTHING other than quick no-strings sex to help take his mind off his ex.
To top it off she is now dating his BEST FRIEND so she's about as unavailable to him as she could be... even if he wanted her, which he clearly does not. Unless you really distrust your BF and think he's the kind of guy who would go after his best friend's girl (in which case I'd have to ask why you're with him) this girl is no threat whatsoever.
I'd bet money that the fact they ever hooked up is something both of them would rather forget, and that they go out of their way to minimize it for the sake of your BF's best friend's feelings. Neither of them is going to want to throw it in that guy's face that he's serious about a girl your boyfriend had, casually, first.
All I can say is, trust your boyfriend and try not to make him feel any more awkward about the situation than he probably does already. Good luck and best wishes as you work through this :)
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