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writes: My hubby and I have been together for 3+ years. He enjoys giving me oral pleasure, but wants me to do it to him as well I do it once in a while but I hate it. I've told him but he thinks it is unfair that he does it to me. He does'nt insist but he will whine sometimes. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2006): I dislike giving oral as well, and only do so by the same feeling of moral obligation. I've decided that it's worth it if that's what he wants, and have found that making an effort is worth it to make our sexual relationship equal. Plus, I wouldn't like if he refused to kiss and cuddle me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2006): this is a very common problem so you shouldn't feel alone. millions of women, just like you, are unable to perform oral sex and generally it is because these women feel that sex and especially oral sex, is dirty and not nice. psychologically, this is called a hang-up. it's interesting of course, that these same women are nearly always more than happy to receive oral sex; it's just when it comes to giving that they get cold feet. clearly, of course, they simply don't love the men they are with, regardless of how much they may protest that they do.
my advice to you is to get over your hang-up; oral sex isn't dirty... it IS nice... both to receive AND to give. get rid of your current boyfriend and give him the chance to find someone who will REALLY love him and find someone else yourself. when you're with a man whom you REALLY love you'll discover that you'll be more than happy to give him pleasure openly and honestly, rather than selfishly taking taking taking. if you find that you remain unable to give pleasure to your lover, then possibly you should consider staying single permanently, rather than tricking some poor guy into believing that you love him, when so clearly you don't...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2006): Yup sucks to be him! I have/had that problem with my gf too. However, she recently started to do it after some prodding and stuff. I guess you don't have to give him anything and let him give you oral if you hate it so much. Poor sap probably needs some sort of toy to help him feel some warm lips around his cock.
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reader, Aussie +, writes (7 March 2006):
Learn a bit more about giving and you may find that you do enjoy it... simply from the pleasure you give your partner. Talk to him about it - be open, then when you are ready, just try it for a bit , then next time a bit longer.. I am female, love giving and receiving, but I also think that if my partner will do it for me, I want to do it for him...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2006): learn to like it!!!!!
your husband WILL cheat on you for oral sex if you dont provide it.
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reader, missbliss +, writes (7 March 2006):
If your partner respects you, and you respect him.Just talk to him, I'm sure he wouldnt want you to do anything that makes you that uncomfortable!If he still complains then try this-Say you really want to give him intercourse 'anally', if hes anything like hetro men,he'll hate it.And you wouldnt make him do anything hes uncomfortable with ;-) see where I'm going! However, if you really want to please your man, buy some books or look on the internet for different ways to give him oral, find some thing that you are happy with.
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reader, missbliss +, writes (7 March 2006):
If your partner respects you, and you respect him.Just talk to him, I'm sure he wouldnt want you to do anything that makes you that uncomfortable!If he still complains then try this-Say you really want to give him intercourse 'anally', if hes anything like hetro men,he'll hate it.And you wouldnt make him do anything hes uncomfortable with ;-) see where I'm going! However, if you really want to please your man, buy some books or look on the internet for different ways to give him oral, find some thing that you are happy with.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (7 March 2006):
 Love making is a two way thing and you like it when he does it to you and he likes it when you do it to him.
If you really feel you cannot do it then dont but if you can bring yourself to do it now and again then this should keep him happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2006): You know what I am in the same sintuation right now He gives it to me but I have not tried it yet I mean he has asked me a few times but never pushed it but I dont know why I cant do it I have asked myself and I never get an awnser I have erges to do it but it has never happened I know he wants me to but I just cant I think We should just do it Not because we have to I will do it because I LOVE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2006): If you hate it, you shouldn't do it; it's that simple. Likely it would not be all that good for him anyhow (unless you're quite the actress). If he continues to wine? Well, perhaps he'd find some other technique (by you) acceptable. I don't envy him, but that's the reality of life.
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