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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes: hey guys, i think i hav a bit of a problem...about 6 years ago, when i was 14, i moved to china (my parents wanted me to learn chinese). my parents hired a guardian to look after me and afterwards, both of them went to the U.S. Well, at first, the first year i went to china, i went to an international school. i had a gf but our relationship didnt last so long. i got back with her again when i was in 10 grade (16) and we broke up again. when i started my sophomore year, i didnt felt dating anybody at school anymore. ok..tis might sound sick, but back in my high school years from freshmen to sophomore, i occasionally masturbate.like 3-4 times a week. Well one day, my guardian actually caught me masturbating.After that day, i felt uneasy because after all, only 2 of us live in the house.I start fantasizing about her and started to like her. She has like a C -cup and she is really pretty. During my 19 birthday, (I took a year of before college) i didnt invite any friends to my party. It was only me and my guardian and at that point, i was madly in love with her, and i think she knows that. after the party was finished, i almost went to bed, i told her that i really like her. she didnt reply, I think she was really surprise. I took her hand and told her one more time and we started making out. I had sex with her that night and worst, i finish inside her. im 20 right now, about to move back to u.s., what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): First are you 16~17 as registered or 20? You say 20 but you sound younger.
Also, how old is your guardian? Is she dating anyone?
If you are actually 20 you are of a legal age, and therefore I suppose you can do this if you both want it. There are a couple of things you should be aware of before doing anything else. You should know this will probably cause awkwardness between you whether it works out or not. The relationship will be different now.
The biggest problem however is the fact that you did not use protection. NEVER had unprotected sex with anyone until you are prepared to become a father. No glove, no love! Even if she is taking precautions you still need to wear a condom. There are all kinds of nasty things being passed around these days and you dont want to take the risk.
I think you should talk to this woman and see what she was thinking. Its pretty normal for young men to have crushes but usually their guardians are off~limits...i cant imagine what she was thinking? good luck, mal
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (5 September 2010):
 OK this seems a lot less bad than I originally thought when I looked at the headline. Basically you screwed your ayi (maid / housekeeper for those of you not from China) and that happens all the time. My guess would be that 10-15% of boys from wealthy households in China have their first sexual experience with an ayi. In your case it was almost inevitable. What on earth were your parents thinking putting a teenaged boy in a house with a single youngish woman :-)
A few thoughts:
a) so what has happened in the year since your 19th birthday?
b) use a condom
c) poor girl is about to lose the job that she's had for the last 6 years. If you're going to the US then she's no longer needed. Be nice to her.
d) tell your Dad to sell the house by the international school. Prices have gone up hugely in the last 6 years and the bubble is about to burst. Sell now and take the profit.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (5 September 2010):
 ummm she might get crazy on you. Just ask her what she thinks about that night and WHY she had sex with you.
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