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writes:Okay basically I'm 19 and havn't seen any of my cousins since I was really little, but 2 out of the 3 of them are identical twin sisters and for the first time in years I saw them at newyears.It was their 19th recently and I drove down to where they live, got absolutely off my face with alcohol and ended up going back to theirs with them both (they recently moved out and got a place of their own cos of family issues) and it all started innocent with talking and everything but then all 3 of us had more to drink and we ended up having sex with one of them on the sofa whilst the other was past out in her bedroom. I know it's not illegal in the UK or anything but it still felt really wrong. I'm not religious or anything and we did use protection, and no, I severly doubt that I would ever have kids with her but she is so gorgeous it is beyond a joke.She phoned me up recently and wants to meet up more and sounded really eager to spend time alone - she didnt sound cautious or worried, she sounded really confident and happy to hear my voice.I'm a bit concerned of what might happen next. What do I do if she wants more sex? I mean it was great and all but it felt so wrong. Im worried that we are both confused and I might take advantage of her. What are the legalitys exactly of having sex with your cousin? Is it considered morally wrong? What are the biological implications of having children if I ever did cum inside her? I really need help, Im so confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): Offcourse its legal if your of age thats just how our lays work.Two adults with consent to do that act, a dad could sleep with there daughter if there of age. I would stop, I have found my cousins attractive but thats crossing a line of morals. Thats whats getting to you, your morals as a person, can I do this if its wrong and everything in me saying its wrong. I wouldn't do it on that feeling alone our feelings protect us and keep us from doing the wrong thing, it can guilt us into doing the right thing. People are sleeping with animals,cousins, sisters,brothers,fathers,and mothers. People do these things because they don't feel obligated to not do it, they listen to there lust and flesh and over power there obligation to stop. Are you going to be obligated to stop or oh my body liked it so I'm going for round two.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): ok bro i would say dont listen to star.x do you really think it's wrong think hard about this. is it just b/c society says"this is bad dont do it" or is it what your heart telling you? ok so the church says its bad so then the people who work for the gov and make laws go to that church so then they say its bad, but if after adam and eve had kids what happened. their was no oneelse so how did man kind grow?
i say do what ever your heart tells you and dont let others opinion/ beliefs get in yours or your cousins way.
good luck and i hope you are successful in life with what ever you chose to do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): then if its all ok why did you ask - go tell mum and dad they will be happy. I am sure....
Star.x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question14sj14, what do you mean it isn't allowed? its perfectly legal in the uk - i.e. there is no law against it. seriously check it up if you don't believe me.
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reader, 14sj14 +, writes (15 March 2009):
Owwchh man. You need to think twice, she's your COUSIN. i know it's horrible saying this,but it's not aloud. Cmon, she's your family. i know your attractions to her cannot be controlled, but you need to act now and stop what your doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh my god! seeing her tonight! I need some more advice :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): be a man. walk away. mum would be proud of you.
Star.x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't really get it. I personally think its wrong yet it is still legal, and I daren't ask any of my friends what they think in case it freaks them out. I really need help, I can't stop thinking about her or her twin sister! they are so gorgeous
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): love is sacred. i am not christian, but i have been hurt enough to realise that any love, whether "allowed" or not, is beautiful. some countries regard cousins being in love, as wrong, some don't..
i believe that if you want to be with someone, and they want the same back, it is important.. i recently learnt... in school, that there is no difference in chances of mental/ physicial defects if having sex with a cousin, compared to with not..
but you really should go to your local gp or medical praticioner if you want reliable advice.
:) good luck. i hope you find happiness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): implications all round are bad - regardless of legality. You know its wrong and uncomfortable which is why you posted. How will your family feel when you tell them?
ok its happened - be a grown up now and say it shouldn't have. so to answer your questions:
1) be grown up and say no. Dont have sex. stay away from a chance of having sex- e.g. alcohol
2) who cares - who is going to persecute you ?- everyone will just think you are from a village where they give you a high six.
3) it becomes a limited gene pool, with higher risk to everything etc. ( An average couple have a 1.2 to 3 percent chance of having children with a birth defect or genetic disease, while first cousins chance will only two fold meaning the chances of birth deffects will only be around 2 to 6 percent. Even at it's worst 7% you still have a 93 % chance of having a perfectly healthy child. :http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Can_two_first_cousins_have_a_healthy_baby) however see my answer to 2.
Don't get drunk in that company again. you are better than that.
Go and get a real GF...where you dont have to worry about all of these things.
star.x.
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