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41-50,
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writes:I am still waiting on a ring, he was going to ask me last january, however when I fell pregnant with our daughter he changed his mind. now our daughter is 10 mths old and he still hasn't asked me. What could he be waiting for. When I asked him if he would ever marry me he said one day. This doesn't make a girl feel wanted what should I do to get him to ask. I know it's silly because we have a nice life now and two amazing children, BUT I WANT to get married. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2007): Hi there, this is just an idea from what I have read and observed in situations like yours.
Are you giving him the right messages? I don't mean messages such "when are you going to marry me" or "I'd say yes if you marry me" but rather messages in that he can be successful in making you happy.
This is where so many women go wrong, they say how they tell their partner they'd marry them, but this is not what a man wants to hear to know a marriage would work. Men need to feel that they are successful in the relationship, not successful in that you want to marry them but successful in that he can be the one to provide for her fulfilment.
Women need to not be off dreaming about a perfect future, as many women in love do, but instead give the right messages along the lines of "I don't need those things to make me happy, you make me happy. It's the way you look at me, it's the way you hold me, love me and take care of me". This is emotional fulfillment that a man wants to hear, it's to know that he can be successful in the marriage. If a man is in a relationship and hears these things yet still does not commit then it is because he does not see her as a wife for him. Give what I've said some thought. Perhaps it is because he doesn't feel like he is the man that can make you happy.
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