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writes:I have just found out that I am pregnent. . The result of an affair I was having.. the affair came out and my partner of 3 years is devestated. He loves me that much hes willing to give us another chance, and thwn yesterday I find out im pregnent. Im in turmoil do I keep or have an abortion.. all my partner has ever wanted is a child of his own and I end up pregnent with another mans baby. I really dont no what to do hes already destroyed and heartbroken how can I bring a baby into this. Also if I have an abortion im scared r never be able to get pregnent again. Im 29 with a 6 yr old.
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reader, Lana102  +, writes (6 October 2015):
You need to reap what you have sown. You started this mess intentionally by having the affair, not even bothering to use protection and you expect him to stick around. Take responsibility for your actions and let him go he is young enough to start again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2015): For a responsible sensitive person, there is only one choice that does not cause emotional consequences and what-ifs in hindsight: Never getting pregnant at the wrong time in the first place.
Don't make your choice based on trying to avoid the immediate downsides of the choices. There is no great solution here. Make your choice based on what is best for everyone in the long run, whether it is the easiest thing for you right now or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2015): I would weigh the option of adoption. You are already smart enough to know that abortion doesn't make the pregnancy go away, it might leave
you with deep emotional wounds.. seek counseling ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2015): I married a woman who had a child out of wedlock shortly before I met her. She admitted up front that she had this child. I accepted her and we began having sex shortly after I married her and she again got knocked up this time by me. We had a very good relationship. I believe she was just naive and was not aware of the consequences of sex. We were married shortly before the birth of her second child and have remained together for over 50 years. We did have some problems. We were separated for 9 months while I was having an affair but we reunited have stayed together everb since
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2015): I don't know what you should do, but I can tell you exactly what you should NOT do - keep the paternity secret and have your husband raise the other man's baby.
My vote for your situation is abortion. Times like this is what they are for. You won't feel very good about it because decent people never do. It's still the best option for this IMHO.
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