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writes:My ex bf and I broke up 16 months ago I was 8 months pregnant at the time. We recently got back together and I am kinda nervous about the whole sex thing. When we dated last we has a great sexual relationship but the last time we had sex I was well into my 8th month of pregnancy. Since then I gave birth vaginally and havent had sex. I am wondering how sex will feel for both of us. Since I had a baby will I be looser down there or since it was so long ago will it be back to normal. I want it to eb perfect for him so is there anything I can do to make it that way
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reader, natasia  +, writes (22 February 2012):
 How your vagina will be now does to some degree depend on the kind of delivery you had. You say a vaginal delivery and don't mention anything else, so presumably no forceps, ventouse, complications or tearing?
You are very young, which is perfect really. If there was no mechanical intervention in the vagina, everything should have pretty much gone back to how it was. It won't be totally the same, but will be similar, and will be absolutely fine.
The best thing to do is to check yourself and see how things feel, then you will have a better idea of how you are.
Your bf may notice some difference, but he will probably be so happy to be back having sex with you again that it won't matter to him. And anyhow, this is how you are now - there is no changing it - so best to just accept it may be a little different, and get on with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2012): Come on girl! Just one baby can't make you loose. It takes a few more babies for that.
Your first few times will probably be a bit dry and tight. My wife was the same after giving birth (we didn't have sex for over a year) and her gynaecologist said it happens to many women who stop to have sex for a few months or more. Women are not like men. If they don't keep their vagina active, it will go to sleep, and needs a bit of exercise to wake up.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (19 February 2012):
 The vagina is a magical organ. It will shrink back to the same size it was before you had the baby!
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (19 February 2012):
 Should not be an issue, but Kegel exercises may help tighten up. Basically, they involve practicing squeezing your pelvic muscles repeatedly, usually several times a day as "followtheblackrabbit" suggests. You can search the term "Kegel exercises" in the search field above for more, but I doubt that you will really need too much help returning your vagina close to normal.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (19 February 2012):
 Hello there, first off, congrats! :) Actually, the "loose" thing is a bit of a myth, the vagina is flexible yes, but it does retain a certain amount of tightness. Women who usually feel "looser" are those who have delivered more than once. Age factors into it as well...you will be a bit tender, but it's nothing to worry about too much. But, I recommend you take it easy and are well lubricated before entry. Also make sure that you have waited the recommended the amount of time your doctor advised you to wait. Now,I strongly advise that you do a few kegel exercises. They help strengthen your vaginal muscles and help develop that "tight" feel. After having a baby, those muscles might slacken just a little. To "find" these muscles, next time you pee, stop the flow. If the flow stops, you found them! (You shouldn't do this every time you're peeing though, not healthy). Kegel exercises you can do anywhere at any time. No one will know...unless you concentrate too hard! lol There are even certain toys you can use if you really want to get serious! Enjoy your beautiful baby and your sexual relationship with your partner, from what I read and hear, it can only get better ;)
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