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writes:I feel so guilty. In February I caught up with a mate of mine, lets call him CC, who I had been friends with for about 2 and a half years. He had another friend of his there called DD and he happened to have been a guy I met at a nightclub 5 years previously, nothing much happened that night just a pash because at the time I was not interested in a relationship or anything. Time went on I would run into him every now and then and we would just say hi and keep walking. After seeing him with CC the three of us started spending alot of time together. After a month or so DD and I started sleeping together and spending alot of time together alone and with a group for about 3 months. We had a fight caused by him being a bit insensitive and me overreacting completely and being somewhat cruel. We didn't talk for a couple of weeks so CC and I didn't speak to much either. DD then moved interstate and CC called me to tell me he was moving up to where DD was in a couple of weeks. CC and I hung out like normal and he stayed with me during his last week in town. We got along well but always did. While he was staying with me DD called and spoke to me and apologised I said not to worry about it and hoped we could still be friends. CC came back down (for medical stuff he had a knee reconstruction) a couple of times and stayed with me in the first month or so he had moved. But he would hardly call me or anything while he was in his new town with DD. CC came down again (but stayed with his brother) on the weekend and came to visit me, I heard him on the phone to DD saying he was at another mates house not mine so I questioned him about it. He told me DD hated us talking and that's why he hardly called me and he said he wanted me to come up and stay with him for a holiday but DD wouldn't like it one bit. I was a bit shocked because I thought DD and I could be friends and I also thought that because I had been friends with CC for so long he wouldn't care if we stayed in close contact. CC and I stayed up drinking and chatting and he told me all this horrible stuff DD had said about me, and that he didn't care about me at all. Since DD moved he already had another girlfriend in his new town but had also broken up with her already and I had only been on one date, it really hurt to hear he didn't care about me at all. (DD was never officially my boyfriend, but that was because of me and we were still exclusive to each other, I thought it meant something.)So the whole delema is that I don't know how or why but CC kissed me and I ended up sleeping with him. Well sort of I stopped halfway through when my concience kicked in and I fully realised what was going on. I'm now worried that he will tell DD and he will think badly of me, but really should I care? I mean it doesn't seem that DD does and he doesn't want anything to do with me and lives in another state now. I feel really guilty, CC and I have been friends for so long I know it won't alter anything with us, he stayed again last night but we didn't touch each other. Should I contact DD myself and tell him so he hears my story? I'm worried that CC will say I seduced him or something.
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reader, Toria +, writes (2 October 2006):
 Well like you said DD already has shown he doesn't care and has more than moved on already, you and CC have been friends a long time and it's not as if DD introduced you two and you was breaking the fact the you was doing things with his friend as he is your friend aswell.
I wouldn't worry too much, if CC tells DD about it who cares? he already is thinking badly of you so this isn't going to make a different to anything between you both, I'm sure if CC was a proper friend he won't say anything bad if he actually says anything at all.
If you like CC I don't see why you should feel bad.
Good luck :o)
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reader, camille  +, writes (2 October 2006):
 Feels weird taking about people named after bra sizes but here goes.... It isn't actually clear whether CC knows you slept with DD. He may and not have told you. So, if he does, there's nothing to say. It's nothing to do with DD what you do with CC. If however CC doesn't know about you sleeping with DD, maybe it'd be better coming from you? Things tend to come out in the end, but it hasn't so far, as far as you know. It doesn't sounds like you can ask DD and maybe that wouldn't be a good idea. If you think that sleeping with CC is a one off, there may be no point telling him anything. Just see what happens next. You stopped during sex and so I'm not sure CC would be telling anyone about the encounter. How do you feel about CC? Is this still your friend or someone you want a relationship with? If you do, maybe honesty is the best policy. If you do decide to tell CC, play it down as even if you thought it meant something, it obviously didn't if you weren't going out/boyfriend and girlfriend. In fact, if no-one knew, it definitely didn't mean anything otherwise, why the secrecy? Don't make a big thing of it, just say something like "I'm telling you this beacuse I'd like to be honest and it's not a big deal, but I have history with DD. It didn't mean anything but I just don't want it to come between us".
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