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writes:A few months ago, I got into a fight with one of my friends. It was our first...and last fight. I started arguing with her because I was bringing up the fact that I was feeling ignored and replaced by this other girl (who is a real jerk by the way). You see, a few years ago my friends completely ditched me. So, I figured that this time if I brought it up early, it wouldn't happen again. And now I regret it big time. I should of just kept my mouth shut. But whatever, you can't turn back time.So now, most of my friends either don't like me or just completely shun me. All because of this stupid fight and my insecurity issues. I'm just so angry. I mean, I make one mistake and they drop me like a rock.The point is, I'm not accepted. It's been six months now since this fight. Six months. I figured it was going to blow over within a few weeks. When it didn't, I tried to fix it. I've been trying now for six months. But now I give up. The only problem is that without them, I just sorta float between different people. I don't really have a group of close friends to fall back to. Before when my other friends ditched me a few years ago, I had this group of friends welcoming me with open arms. Now, I don't have anybody. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2008): well , those are bitches and not what you call them 'friends' okay ? friends don't treat you like this . a friend , is someone who cares for you when you are sick . will not leave you alone even if they have boyfriend or new friend(s) .. . a friend will not abandon you just because of a SMALL matter . a friend will give you their shoulders to leant on when they feel like crying . a friend . a true friend . will always be there for you , no matter what it causes .
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2008): If everyone has dropped you so quickly,then they are not real friends.Real friends would try to help patch things up with who you had a fight with but took the easy way out and decided to handle it very badly.I feel the person you argued with might have been very over-powering and quite popular,so your so called 'friends'went with that person.Well,I think you are a better person than any of those people.You need to forget about those 'friends'and move on.Easier said than done I know but it is doable.Confide in a relative who is close to your age,ie a cousin and they might be able to help in terms of introducing you to new people.Join a club and participate in after school activities and you will start making friends in no time.But be careful who you trust.It takes a long time to call someone your friend.Make sure you chose wisely this time and one more thing.Dont go for the one that looks nice.You need to go for honest,genuine people.Its time to take control of your life and stop thinking about the past.Good Luck.
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reader, blondebabe86 +, writes (22 July 2008):
Sounds like they are not true friends and I am sorry people will see that and they won't have any true friends. Sounds like you gotta just look out there oneday you'll find the right group of friends.
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