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I had a breast reduction and now my guy doesn't fancy me? What can I do?

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Question - (9 September 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 10 September 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I recently got a breast reduction, because of the major back pains that i have been having for years. My husband didnot want me to have this surgery, because he said "he loves big, doopy breasts." It has been several months now, we haven't had sex because he said i am a different person, and he is not attracted to me. What can I do to make him gain his attractivenes back for me?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007):

Hunny,

I cant believe your husband is so selfish and shallow, Your pain should be his main worry not the size of your breasts, He is saying you are not the same person because your breasts are now smaller than he would much prefere so now he no longer has the same feelings for you, I no where I would send him.. PACKING!!!! You must be really hurt sweetheart but if any man said this to me I wouldnt even think twice, Were is the love caring and consideration for you my heart goes out to you, after what he has said I wouldnt even want to make him happy and I dont think trying could anyway he is way beyond shallow, My advise is dont try ignore his behaviour I no you want to improve your sex life but he is being so stuborn and childish, I would just get on with my life untill he realises just how he has upset you, if he ever does.. If you need to chat any time message me hun, I do hope things get better for you and he understands how cruel he has been... TAKE CARE OF YOU LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2007):

***horizontal stripes, sorry! always get them confused! :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2007):

that is unbelievable shallow and selfish (on HIS part) the fact that he would rather have you in pain just so he's satisfied...!

you are exactly the same person, if he can't see that then he really isn't worth it.

but as you are wanting to make it work i'd suggest some new underwear in styles and patters that enhance the size of your breasts, and the same with your tops, i find that vertical stripes can give the illusion of you being larger than you are. go for bright colours, as dark colours are slimming, maybe dark trousers and a bright top would help.

has he ever mentioned any fantasy of his to you? on that you haven't fulfilled? surprise him with it, if not then create one that you think he would respond to

do NOT try to push him into sex, the likeliness is that he'll just be more stubborn to annoy you as 'revenge' for going agaisnt his will.

if he still doesn't want to have sex, then just don't mention it at all, don't try to start anything at all, just continue to wear enhancing styles/colours/patterns etc and act totally disinterested.

hope this helps

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