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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together two months and we talk everyday. We work similar jobs and sometimes, overnight so we try to keep each other up. Friday I told him I had plans to go out but I ended up getting sick and fell into deep sleep, I woke to 12 missed calls from him. He was upset and worried. I explained what happened via text cause he wouldn't pick up but got a cold shoulder. He left a voicemail saying "if that's the way it's going to be, take care." I sent him a long message saying I had missed him etc but no reply. I asked if he was mad and his reply was: "I'm not! Have a nice day!" He hasn't called or anything but had the time to go on this chat app we both have. I sent him a greeting he read but didn't answer. He didn't bother even asking if I was okay. I feel like a teenager or something! I hate this. I care about this guy but should this just be over?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (27 April 2015):
 I'm with the others. OP, it might not feel like it now, but you really did dodge a bullet here.
12 missed calls is just a weeee bit obsessive, then a cold shoulder afterward. this guy is very clingy and insecure. Not to mention wrapped up in himself. He wasn't worried that you were ill or injured. he was angry that you weren't available for him.
Please don't try to contact him again and if he contacts you absolutely NO more apologies. The subtext of that is that his expectations and behaviour are perfectly normal and you owe him. Which is not the case here.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 April 2015):
 Yeah, it should be over, and count your blessings. 12 missed calls and the silent treatment? This man is no good. If he suspected you lied it is only because he himself often lies. No one other than a liar or someone who himself does these things on purpose, would jump to the conclusion that you lied and did this on purpose.
The red flags are waving. Good luck you found out so quickly.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 April 2015):
 My guess is, he think you lied about being sick.
YOUR original plans were to go out, but you go sick and went to sleep instead, no answering your phone. TO him... it looks like you DID go out and maybe didn't sleep in your own bed or whatever imaginative notion he got into his head.
I would stop texting him and I would CERTAINLY stop apologizing. YOU were sick for crying out loud, if he is so insecure that he can't HANDLE you not picking up when he texts calls, he needs help. He is such a passive-aggressive little turd isn't he?
Oh, I and I would presume the relationship is over.
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