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writes:Hey everyone. I'm new here. I'm in a bit of trouble here. I'm 21 and I just cheated on my gf of 3 1/2 years.I feel really quilty nowAbout 1 year ago she cheated on me and didn't feel guilty or anything, and the anger has kept burning in me until today when I finally got my revenge on her and now it's eating me insideMy gf has been the only girl I've ever been with, since I was 17 and I love her dearly but when she cheated on me my entire world come crashing down, I had lost that bond that we had had, we were each other's first love, and I lost that when she cheated on me, revenge is all that was going through my head.Now that I've cheated, things don't feel better I just feel like a jerk, I don't know if I should tell her or not.She didn't tell me when she cheated I found out and she left me for the other bloke until she realized the grass wasn't greener on the other side. I welcomed her back with open arms but over time the hatred ate me from the inside out which lead to today....I don't know what to do, I love her dearly, I got my revenge, why do I feel like such a jerk?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2011): Dont' feel bad about it. She deserves this treatment. If I were you I would be shopping around for a better gf.
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (17 May 2011):
You feel like a jerk because you acted like one.
If you have both cheated on each other then maybe this relationship aint to be. It sounds like it will be better to move on, and learn from these mistakes.
I can see why you hated what she did, and why you got revenge, it's because you didn't want to confront the inevitable, and that was that she had done something so bad that the only answer was to end it.
I think in future you will be more wise, and know when it's time to end a relationship. With this relationship, you've ended up just as bad as she is. Next time, you'll handle a tough situation much better.
Move on, but more importantly, learn from this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2011): Your relationship with her needs to end. It has run its course and now neither one of you really values and respects the other like people do in a healthy relationship. You're just not experienced enough to understand this yet. Being very attached to someone is not enough when the relationship is unhealthy in other important ways.
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