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writes:Hey there!Something strange happened this new year's eve. I went to a friends place to celebrate. There were 4 of us (me, my brother, friend and the one who invited me). We got pretty drunk and at 1 am in the morning the girlfriend of the one who invited me (let's call him Chuck) came in. She came from a party and was already a little bit drunk. My brother and the other friend were already wasted so it was just me, Chuck and that girl (let's call her Carrie). There were 2 sofas and we were watching a movie. They invited me over to their sofa so i wasn't left all alone. After a while Chuck went upstairs, but i don't really know why. Carrie was right next to me and i kinda stared at her and she looked at me too. So i just kissed her. It was very intensive and it was my first kiss. I even grabed her breasts. I guess she liked it, cause she was breathing heavily. An hour later she went upstairs and had to puke (she obviously had to much of alcohol). Now the thing is, that i like her very much, but at the same time she is the bf of a friend of mine. What should I do? Do you have any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): Thanks again for the anonymous answers, it brought some other thougts to the problem!I think, that i'm just gonna say nothing. Maybe she will talk to me about it, but sincerely, I don't have the balls to talk to her about that night. And what if I go talk to her and she doesn't remembe a thing? That would be embarassing for me ... another thing is, that i hardly regret it ... I mean for me it was a great experience, but all the thing about her boyfriend I do regret. But I mean, I also had times when I regreted something, because of alcohol. But that won't stop me from drinking alcohol :D.Greets
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): I agree with not saying anything. It was a mistake and the main issue was alcohol. I once kissed someone else (besides my boyfriend) when I had way too much to drink and didn't even remember it the next day until a friend reminded me. Like "Carrie" I was so intoxicated that I had to throw up. I regretted it very much and have not drank that much since. It is likely that she remembers very little, regrets it and will hopefully never do it again. Hopefully you won't either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): Look... it WILL come out eventually. Iy might be in a day, or in ten years.
But rest assured, you have done the damage. All that remains is to figure out how much damage, and how long it takes to notice it.
You need to come clean. Lying is NEVER the best option. Ever. Because when the truth does surface... the damage is quardupled by the lie.
If she is willing to kiss other men simply because of alcohol, than there are cracks in her relationship in the first place.
My advice is to talk to the girl and apologise for it. Then tell her you want to come clean, but will leave it up to her. Because he's your friend.
Truth is generally preferable to lies.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): Thanks for the answer first of all. I think you are right about that and of course i haven't told anyone yet. It wasn't my intetion to do it but i mean i was probably as drunk as she ... maybe even more. I even had some minor blackouts from that night. Thing is, that i like her very much, but i don't want to break them up. Also i am not sure if she remembers any of this. Another thing is, that i don't have a lot of experience with girls, actually none.
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (3 January 2010):
 It probably wouldn't have ever happened if you weren't drinking, correct??
Go on as nothing happened. She may not even remember it. Don't risk your friendship over a kiss!!
There are many many women out there....find one of your own!!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (3 January 2010):
My advice is to keep it as a nice memory but NOT MENTION IT TO HE OR ANYONE!
She cheated on her boyfriend when she was VERY drunk. Do you really want to break them up and make him want to punch you?
She is your friend's girl and you betrayed him by doing this.
Try and avoid her, and meet some new girls to get over her.
Good Luck!! xx
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