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writes:please can anyone help me ? i recently got in touch with an old boyfriend (whom i have always loved deeply and he feels the same) i feel now i cannot go on with my relationship with my present partner who i have been with for 15 years - we havent really been having a normal relationship for several years - but remain friends, we also have two children - i know if we split this will hurt them deeply - but i feel i cant go on like this anymore i cant talk to anyone else about this because my friends are his friends too, i get the impression he is not completely happy either - we both seem to be just thinking of the children but i feel i cant go on much longer - i desperately want to be with the other man - my heart is breaking and i am terrified of what will happen - please help Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 July 2010):
I STRONGLY urge you to think about this. The feelings you've got may well just be the lust of knowing someone else happens to be there at this time. But they may well go away, in which case you'll have thrown your family away for nothing. I would suggest to you that you and your current partner seek counselling to see if this can be fixed. If it can, all well and good. If not, then end it. But DO NOT go straight to this other guy. The last thing your kids need is to go from one man straight to another. I think this very much be a case of 'the grass seems greener'. This will take more thought yet, maybe even you spending time alone to work out what you want. Don't risk splitting. Remember that there are a lot of people who regret ending marriages/relationships over past ex's that end up unhappy than happy.
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