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writes:Well i was wondering if anyone out there have ever experience this situation..or have any comment about this situation.Well it's a new year and my partner left me for a guy whom she just met for a week and now he keeps calling her and i am getting annoyed because we live together, we still sleep together and stuff but my partner had told me that she wanted to be with this guy but you see the guy is like in another country but will be coming here soon...what should i do to make her want me back or what should i do to convince her to stay with me..we have been together for almost 7years and she dumps me for someone whom she just met..What should i do please help me...i still love her.. Reply to this Question
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reader, Clarey  +, writes (23 January 2007):
 This sounds like pergatory. I know seems very hard, because you love her, but I think you should show her that you will not accept her behaviour and let her go. Leave, get out and let her get on with it. You can never, ever make someone want to be with you. She can take you for granted and that does not make her want you. When there are cookies in the jar who wants cookies? If you had endless piles of cakes in front of you and someone said you had to climb a mountain for a long cold drink and a delicious sandwich, which one would you want more?
There is no way at all that begging and pleading will change her mind, what you are doing will make her see you as weak and she will despise you. To gain any kind of respect you have to be strong. Once you get out and find, as she may well, that she wants you back, think really hard about it. I think you deserve better, but you will not get it all the time you have such low expectations for what it means for a person to love you. How could a person who loves you hurt you so badly?
This is not love, it is betrayal. Good luck, but be strong, find some qualities that you and others will admire. Don't wheedle and beg..head up, look forward and tell her to get out of your life. Mean it. What a horrible person she is being. I hope she looks back one day and feels ashamed. Please think hard about taking her back if it arises, only forgive if she really deserves it and is trying very hard to regain your trust.
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