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writes: I have been dating this guy for about 3 months. I had broken up with my previous boyfriend for him, and he(the new boyfriend) wanted me to take some time off and think about if I had made the correct decision. I did not want to do that I had already made up my mind concerning that situation yet he insisted. So during the time I was "thinking" I went over to his best friends house (which I had known before I met the new boyfriend) and we had a lot of drinks we were both very drunk. The next thing I knew his best friend had taken off my pants and was going down on me then tried to have sex with me at that point I sobered up a bit and left. I told the new boyfriend about 2 weeks after it happend and now he doesn't think he can forgive me. He thinks it was cheating but I thought we were on a break. He says he loves me and wants to try but he just can't get past it yet... How can I talk to him and help us get through this?
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reader, elmino +, writes (8 December 2005):
Sorry i have no sympathy for chicks who sleep or screw around with boyfriends best friends.You knew damn well what was goin on.I'd spit in your face.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2005): What the hell is a 'break'?!? I mean think about it - really think about this... Your boyfriend (not breakfriend) wanted you to think over things, because he cared enough and respected you enough to give you the chance to go back to your ex, then that's cool cuz he would have accepted it. So what did you do instead? Go and fool around with someone else. Nice! [sarcastic] [thumbs up]I've never understood 'breaks'. You're either apart or together. There is no 'breaks'. That's a westernized term that I've always wondered about. You even said right here, "I had already made up my mind." If you truly have made up your mind, you would have been more responsible and would have held onto your integrity as his partner. He allowed you space to think about stuff because he trust you would think things through and make a decision. That is the subject. Where in that subject does it say "I'll give you the chance to go back to your ex AND it's cool for me if you sleep around"???Ah!Anyway, enough about my venting and time for some constructive advice!FIRST, talking ain't gonna help you. So shut up and just act on your heart. If it takes time, then time is what it will obviously take. You just pretty much have to prove to him that you're not a cheap slut, and that you're faithful and loyal to the concept of love and commitment. If he for one moment think that you would take advantage of his generous offers - eg: let you think things through, then jeebus, maybe you should just break it off clean and allow him his integrity and honor. Leave quietly in other words. Remember, I am only being objective here, and not directing anything negative specifically at you. 8]
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