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writes:can you guys help me? this summer i took a taekwondo class and i met a few people and then there's this guyhe keeps looking at me and smilling. and he asked me if he could court me, i honestly like him but there's one problem. he's from public school and i study in a private school, i told my friends about it and they all laughed at me thinking it was a joke. i feel kinda bad for him i dont know what to do because if i go out with him that means he has to meet my friends and i dont want him to be humiliated. but i also really like at the same time what should i do? my parents are okay with it. i know were well off. that isnt a reason to not like him right? just because he's in public school right? Reply to this Question
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reader, Gherkinsaregrim  +, writes (7 May 2011):
You might want to try get over any prejudices you have against people for their social status first. If your not immediately comfortable with him then you probably won't ever be and it wouldn't work.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (6 May 2011):
 If and I repeat IF I detect a tone of "snobbery" like, is he good enough for me and my family"[not saying that's the case] then if there is the smallest bit of class judgment then you should avoid him at all cost 'cause you'll never see eye to eye if he "feels" that tinge of elitism. Avoid the pain. I was in that situation many many years ago. I went to public school and she attended a private school[the kind the parents pay big bucks for] she and I got along very well but her parents hated me. They went so far as to make her break up with me. Her mother used to actually ask me if my father was selfish with his money since I went to public school. I'd recommend you avoid the pain.
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (6 May 2011):
A boyfriend is someone you want to be with, not who your friends want you to be with. Your friends getting on with him is just an added bonus.It sounds like your friends are a little snobby. Maybe they should give him a chance first, and if they do, maybe they will really like him. If they say anything negative amount him again, tell them to give him a chance.. and if they don't, they are not very good friends.
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reader, aaringurl +, writes (6 May 2011):
Girl, if you think that him, being in a public school is the problem, then maybe the thing gone wrong is you. Why make it such a big issue?
If you like the guy, then go for it, don't mind or care what your friends think. Besides, if they're people who can't accept the one you chose to like, then how can you tell they're good friends? And if they can't handle that fact, then off you go. Don't linger in the presence of people who're giving you false standards. (Trust me, I've been there.)You're 'parents' even approved, which is atleast a good thing.
You're a living testament of a girl affected by peer pressure at its peak. Please be careful and canny with all decisions you'll be making. You're still young. Keep things light and cool. ^.^
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