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writes:Hi everyone! I'm just wanting your opinion on whether I'm being naive here!Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years, I've never had a reason to not trust him! This weekend I went away with my friends for bank holiday and he went out with his friends!I came home Monday and we spent the day watching films together! However I noticed what looked like a smallish love bite on his neck! I asked him what it was and he said he had messing around thrown something at his friend and it had hit him in the elbow and bruised him! He said that his friend had then bitten him on the groove of his neck/shoulder really hard to get him back and that's what had caused the mark. I didn't really know what to say and I think he guessed that and offered to ring or text his friend and ask him to explain how he got it. I declined this as I don't want to look silly. I don't want my boyfriend to have to ring his friend infront of me to justify the mark on his neck. So I just left it and trusted him. Now though I'm doubting myself and wondering if I'm being naive. I go on a weekend away and come home to a boyfriend with what looks like a love bite on his neck. However, he did spend all weekend with that boy and he was seen out in the nightclub with the boys he said he was with and nobody else. (Girls etc)I also did see on Facebook a photo of his friends bruised arm which he had tagged my boyfriend in saying 'what a shot'. Would you believe him or do you think he's taking me for a mug?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (26 August 2014):
 i once burned my neck with a curling iron... looked just like a hickey. I was in high school and teased beyond belief....
the fact that he was willing to call the friend then and there.... I'd trust him this one time.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (26 August 2014):
 OMG he had an affair with a vampire,better lookout you'll be next! Girls that bite should be avoided at all cost!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2014): Biting on the neck? Yeah I don't believe that for one second. You should have said, yeah call the friend up so I can yell at him for biting you, and then watched his reaction. Unless the friend is Mike Tyson, there is no reason he would be biting your boyfriend during horseplay. The Facebook photo is obviously a cover story.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 August 2014):
 You know, I had a nerf gun fight in the back yard with the kids and one hit my throat and 15 minutes later... it looked JUST like a hickey. Hubby teased me for days.
So yea, I believe your BF. Specially if the friend posted another bruise with the "what a shot" comment - it kind of sounds like they were being stupid and goofing around.
I'd give him the benefit of the doubt on this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2014): Before I got to the end of your post I was thinking: "I don't know." would have been a better excuse for him to use! However after seeing he offered to call his friend and the pic on FB then I agree with CMMP below to give benefit of doubt!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (26 August 2014):
If he offered to call him right then and there then it's likely he's telling the truth. If he hasn't given you a reason not to trust him then you should give him the benefit of the doubt.
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