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writes:Hi everyone... Okay this is a kind of embarrassing problem and i'm really paranoid about it , its starting to affect my confidence and my sex life.So iv'e got 2 children 7 and 8 and im a good weight, healthy etc, thing is though, quite a lot lately everytime i have sex with my partner i cant feel it and it puts me off and really upsets me. His member is big and thick so i should be feeling it...! he says he can feel it no problem but im scared hes just saying that because he knows how much it upsets me. We have been together 3 years so maybe he feels bad telling me. I get really really wet and often have to dry during sex and he reckons that's probably it as i can always feel sex really well in the beginning, but the wetter i get i feel less. Iv'e done pelvic floors and if i do it during sex he feels it too so im at a loss as to how to fix this its ruining everything coz i have a really high sex drive but i dont feel sexy anymore and i feel useless to him now. i just get off now and cry because i feel so humiliated even though he tries to reassure me. Any advice on this or has anyone had similiar dealings with this problem. Many Thanx Anon
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2013): I am the same way, I get really wet during sex most times.My BF has commented on it a few times but never in a negative way. At one point I apologized for it and he told me not to apologize for enjoying myself, he likes that he can do that to me. I think it's a turn on for guys and when a girl is really wet it doesn't mean he doesn't feel you, he just feels you differently. When you're dry then there is so much friction it can be uncomfortable. When you wet you are warm and it feels better. Why else would guys ask for oral so much? Our mouths are wet and warm. Trust me, he likes it and it doesn't bother him. He is probably changing positions because he wants to make sure YOU feel it. He wants you to enjoy it as much as he does. Sex is between two people, if one is not into it then it can be hard on the other person. So embrace your natural lube and just let yourself enjoy him again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2012): Believe me we guys don't mind a bit. In fact it gives a tremendous boost because we know we are doing things right. So don't worry. you are a bless to any guy.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (27 October 2012):
 Is he getting off? Then he can definitely feel you! His penis is WAY WAY WAY more sensitive than your vagina. Your vagina is built for less pain in childbirth rather than more pleasure during sex. You can mostly feel movement and fullness, right? Penis and vagina sensation are not even similar.
Wetness is always a good thing. It tells him you're turned on, which for any normal guy is a major turn on. If you're not wet, it's like when he can't get hard.
Seriously, everything is fine! I don't know why you think there is a problem. It wouldn't exactly be easy for him to be faking orgasms. If you are both having them, you are both enjoying sex and everything is fine!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2012): To be honest he sometimes agrees that I get too wet so he doesn't care that i dry myself, god no... i couldn't care less about the sheets when im having sex i just want to have fun, the last thing on my mind is the mess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2012): i'm sorry but i can't see the problem here.
you get too wet (in your own opinion!). I will pay a million dollars to see my woman get dripping wet for me. why do you think he is different?
why do you dry during sex? nothing looks sexier than a wet female member. are you worried about the sheets? if so, then yes, this IS a real turnoff!
you don't feel him inside? most probably because your muscles are relaxed during sex. which means you are horny and ready for him. again this is good, not bad.
you don't have a penis, so maybe it's not easy for you to understand. but you should know that his pleasure is not directly related to you tightness or looseness. an anus is much tighter than a vagina, but it doesn't give even half the pleasure that a vagina gives. the vagina is a curvy member with a tissue specially designed for sex. even the loosest women can satisfy their men successfully.
and you get your pleasure through your clitoris, so why do you care if your vagina doesn't feel it?
go to your man and live with him happily ever after. there is nothing wrong with you.
I envy your man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2012): I feel humiliated because when i get so wet i can't feel it so i think that he can't feel it either, he says he can but i just think that he doesnt want to make me feel crap and so he says he feels it even though he doesn't, if that makes sense?
I just feel that iv'e had two kids and so maybe its me, maybe im loose and he doesn't want to hurt my feelings coz he loves me. i might just be paranoid but its really affecting our relationship coz if i cant feel it i can't carry on because i think hes faking it as he keeps changing positions etc to get more feeling, my ex was smaller but i never had this problem i know it sounds silly but its turned me from being adventurous and fun to shying away incase i get too wet.. i always heard the wetter the better but not if u can't feel it.. surely??
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reader, person12345 +, writes (26 October 2012):
I'm sorry if I sound unsympathetic but I don't understand what the problem is or why you feel humiliated. You are wet, meaning you're super turned on. You have orgasms, again, meaning you're super turned on. He has orgasms, meaning he's super turned on. You sound like you have a very healthy sex life. Your vagina isn't that sensitive, but you are having orgasms, so it sounds like you are enjoying things. A lot. Why are you humiliated?
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