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anonymous
writes:i'm 16 years old, never had a boyfriend, or a first kiss and i have trouble talking to guys...is there something wrong with me? am i too ugly? too fat? too shy? i don't know what to do and whenever i start talking to a guy i am scared to be embarrassed so with that fear in mind i embarrass myself further...what am i supposed to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2012): STOP HAVING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS!!!YOU'RE PERFECT!!How do I know?I am the exact same way with girls.This isn't an ideal start but if you can text any guys then that can really get your confidence up because you are not actually in front of them, and your negative thoughts won't matter as much. All you have to do is type :)I'm 15 and everytime I'm near a girl I just get really scared incase I embarrass myself and what's worse is that my mum was overprotective when I was younger, and while all my friends were going elsewhere I had to stay in our tiny Cul de sac. I don't have that much confidence when I'm near a girl and I still haven't been kissed either. I feel ashamed at myself cos when I was younger I was quite confident around girls.I've been doing my best to overcome this. I usually smile at girls when I walk past them in the street and it helps. Now I do feel a little more confident!I can start a conversation with them but then I run out of things to say and I don't know what to say and the conversation just falls flat.Good Luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 June 2012):
 No there is nothing wrong with you what so ever, you just have low self esteem when it comes to chatting to guys, you are shy and scared that you will do or say something embarrassing and then you are not thinking straight and just feel more embarrassed. You just need to be yourself. Treat a guy like you would a friend. Just smile and say hello ask them questions about themselves. It takes some practice. But you need to remember that they are only another person and you do not need to impress them just be yourself. Start off by smiling at people and saying hello and work your way up. Just remember that it is yourself who is judging you and not them.
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