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writes:It's hard to explain, but i'll try to make it as simple as possible.Okay, i've liked a teacher of mine for about four years now. Of course i'm aware that it's just a crush. Im also aware that it's probably fetish for me considering that ive liked 3 teacher (including this one) during my school years. I know as well that a lot of girls in highschool get crushes on their teachers due to the "more mature" sort of thing. The only problem is that I think i've become obssessed. I have a collage of pictures of him in a notbook I glance at a good part of the time and I have recorded his voice on a little recorder so I can hear the sound of his voice when I wish he was around. On top of that, I spend a majority of my time fantasizing about him and planning on things I want to say to him. I barely talk to the man anymore considering the fact that I hardly see him which makes me wonder how I could STILL like him! Is that even normal?! I know it's never going to happen, he is married just like the other teachers ive liked. The age difference is vass and we don't have much in common besides our sense of humor.Lately it's hit me that nothing's going right for me anymore and im not really sure it could. All of my friends are happy with their boyfriends and I waste my nights dwelling on guys at least twice my age. Will an issue like this ever get better/easier? Is this just a crush I have or am sickly obsessed? Most importantly, I want some adive as to what can I do to make things better for the time being. I have considered therapy (Is my problem a good enough reason to seek therapy?) P.s.- Please don't tell me to just move on, it is not that simple. I have tried that, but I found no success. I need serious answers so please please please help me out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): Hi sorry to bring it up this way...
teacher is there to teach u & at this age u should put a bit more of ur attention to ur grades then having hots for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): first off, you dont need therapy, at least not yet, but you do need to ask yourself this: what is missing in your life? security? love? what ever it is, you need to be more comftable with yourself. there is nothing worng with a teacher crush, actually its a good thing, but you dont need to go too far. maybe you're just lonely. enjoy your crush but keep it in perspective and slowly move on.
i bet you'll grow out of it as you achieve more means of control yourself (say, own a car...).
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reader, speedcat +, writes (31 January 2008):
well lots of girls have crushes on older men,I know cause I found one of my teachers hott when i was younger!! but importantly you need 2 give boys your age a chance! try to date your own age, might not be that bad!i dont think u need therapy but just know that a man twice your age could take advantage of you and there are some wierdos out there. the tape recording a little to much,,but hey your young and sometimes we do things that dont make scense, even to ourselves. so long as you dont act out any of these feelings,,using your imagination is ok
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