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writes:I get teased at school for being clever and talking properly, and I didn't really mind until this girl started blanking me and making rude and snide comments on my answers in class, I go to a state grammar shcool but used to go to a fee-paying shcool for "posh, rich people" as this girl says. My dad owns a company but my mother doesn't work so I don't think we are really rich but this girl thinks we are and holds it against me.Also, I am ok with her being mean to me, because I was bullied for a while a few years back and know pretty much how to deal with it. (but, ofcourse, it still gets me down) But what really annoys me is that she is mean to my best friend and she doesn't like it at all and I'm sure she would cry if she didn't know how good that would make this girl feel.I have sort of stopped putting my hand up all the time but in Art it's difficault to know what to do because I know she'll tease me if my arts better than hers, but also I know she'll be horrible if I make it worse than hers. I know she's jealous of my best friend, because she told me, and my friend is a very love or hate person, and I'm sure that if I didn't like her, I'd hate her for being so damn smart, but that doesn't make it any better. Oh- god , I've just realised how long this is!Please help!Helixxx
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reader, I'mheretohelpyou  +, writes (2 June 2008):
 People suck cornchips, ya know. In 5th and 6th grade I was made fun of because I talked with a high vocabulary and the thing is is that I didn't even talk that much. I'm black and they called me a "White Girl", as if all white people talk with a high vocabulary. That's what you get for living in the Ghetto, but there are some good people there, ofcourse. Anyway, I'm outgoing now in 7th grade and nobody calls me white girl anymore but if anyone does, I'm totally blowin' up thier spackle.lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you,I just wanted to say thank you for being so nice.in answer to some questions, yes she has made a few people dislike me but I'm not sure if i'd want them to like me anyway.I don't think I could change my accent because my mother talks the same so I naturally talk like her.The "bully" as you call her, just came almost bottom in our latest test, which was funny-not that i'd laugh at her (well, not to her face, at any rate) considering what you guys had said about her!I feel a lot more confident after reading what you wrote and have been talking to my mum about it and she said that I was better than her anyway.and you guess what!I think I am!Helixxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): What that girl is doing isn't teasing. It seems more serious than that.
Whatever you do don't change how you act. You should be really proud of being smart and getting good marks, so don't start failing deliberately! Don't change how you talk either. Be proud of who you are!
Keep helping your friend out too if she's getting a rough time - stick together and you'll be fine.
If it were me I would just ignore the bully - don't try to be mean back - I don't think you woud anyway as you seem like a smart girl anyway!
Is it just this one girl thats bitter against you?? Or is she turning other people against you too?? If it starts getting really serious you may need to tell your parents, if you haven't done so already, and possibly tell a teacher that you trust.
I really hope that everything gets better for you.
x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): Darling, never change for anyone else. NEVER.This girl is going to grow up and un educated stupid talking prat to be honest, when she leaves school after failing her exams, and not gettin a proper job, who will be the one being teased then?There is alot more to life than school and when you are an adult, with an amazing partner, a flying career and a good life, she will be the one without it all.Please don't change the way you are, I know it must be difficult, trust me I've been in the same situation, I moved to a new school when I was 13 and I was smart and i spole properly and i didn't swear or smoke or do all the disgusting things and one girl bullied me like crazy for years, but i just got on with it because i knew i was better than her.This girl ended up getting pregnant by this druggy guy who was a couple of years older, and i was doing my weekly shop at the supermarket the other day, and there she was sitting under the bus shelter, looking awful with 3 children clinging to her.At the end of the dayshe is a little jealous girl. And you are worth FIVE HUNDRED TIMES HER.Be amazing at art, be amazing at life, make yourself proud!X x X
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reader, steve107 +, writes (1 December 2007):
 bullying was a common thing that went on at my school some because of being too fat stupid or smart e.c.t. i left high school 2 years ago and all the bullys i saw whether it was boys or girls seem to have got what they deserve they ethier got realy bad grades and are doing low paid jobs or not working at all. be proud of who you are and what makes you who you are. in 10 years time you will be the one laughing at them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): My dear chap,Why not treat her the same as you treated the bullies earlier--ignore her completely. The more you react to her teasings, the more horrible she will become. Keep ignoring and she will eentually back down and go away.As for you being clever and talking properly, you should be very proud of yourself, not otherwise. WELL DONE!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): Don't ! DON'T stop talking the way you are. I did that when i was young, and it screwed me up! I started conforming to them and i became stupid! Be who you are, talk properly, do whatever is good, do not be like them! Plz! When you get into high school (like senior or junior year) u'll regret conforming! Believe me! Forget them! They're losers! Be who you are! You are a very intelligent girl and keep it up. Don't talk slang or inappropriately because in the future it is only going to embarress you and make you feel stupid.
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