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writes:Why is life so evil??????????It seems to me that as soon as I start feeling happy with my life something happens to turn it all upside down!I hear all the time life is unfair and stuff happens, but c'mon I just want help!I get overly emotional when bad things happen and also I get myself confused, when me and my parents argue I get upset then they say I'm feeling sorry for myself, acting spoilt, etc,etc. This really makes me feel worse in myself because I don't want to feel sorry for myself, how can I control my frustration and not cry when I have an argument without holding my feelings in? Also I would like to know how I can stop getting attached to people who give me advice. I always feel like I need that certain person, but its not helpful because they have lives too and I don't want to get in the way. If you could give me some advice, I'd really appreciate it,Thanks,Aliceinunderlandxxx Reply to this Question
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reader, darthangel165  +, writes (13 April 2010):
 Its not your fault that you can be over emotional. Its part of who you are. But what i do (cuz i am extremely over emotional) is to just take deep breaths and think of the happy things that just happened. Push the sad things away. Maybe hang out wit ur friends on the days where the bad things happen so you can replace them wit the happy things. or do something you love to get ur mind off of what happened. And sometimes, it is the best to cry. crying helps keep ur pent up emotions from getting worse and escalating to horrible things. I hope my advice helps you. Good luck 3
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (13 April 2010):
First, Life is NOT evil - shit happens, it just happens... not to you, but to everyone... It sounds as if you've got some issues with security, and possibly some codependency issues (not uncommon, certainly not a huge deal, but no way to know for sure, but your "attachment" comment suggests it)- I'd suggest seeking out some resources, possibly a school councilor. Talk to them, see what resources they can find for you- basically, network yourself a solution. Talk to one resource, have them recommend another one... till you find one that fits.We all want to feel secure, especially at your age. As a young teen, life can feel overwhelming, and full of uncertainty. There APPEARS to be quite a lot to be scared of... but 99.9% of it is just fear, age gives you a new perspective and reassurance that most of what we all feared at your age never happened to us. What I've found to be true is that I spent a lot of my life worrying about "what if's" that never "if'ed", and I missed out on quite a few great experiences along the way. Today, life is fantastic! But I still have to deal with fear, as it does occasionally come to visit.There are lots of books out there on various "conditions" or "isms", but you don't need me or anyone else on the web to attempt to diagnose you. You need someone to talk to who can provide a new perspective. Just remember, life is great adventure- if has it's ups and downs, but far more ups!
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