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36-40,
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writes:How do I deal with jealousy of people talking to my friends or change this?I get jealous when other people talk to my friends as they have their attention. I was never like this when I was at high school because I only had a few friends and we all stayed together. It's only when I've gone to uni and become more sociable that I've become jealous of other people talking to my closest friends. Oddly I do talk to other people as well. There are two reasons for this which I recognise but can't seem to change. The first was a bully a school kept turning friends against me and I assumed that no one wanted to be my friend (that lasted 5 years). The other is that my ex left me for another man and I didn't experience jealousy then.My jealousy I now know is based on fear and its the same feeling I get when I see a girl I fancy talking to another guy, yet I talk to other women.I know it sounds selfish that I can talk to other people but others I get jealous with but I'm scared that they'll then not want to be my friend anymore as they've made a new friend and would rather spend time with them than me.How do I change this, I don't want to be some green-eyed monster.
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (3 August 2010):
 Include yourself.
If you see your friends talking to new people introduct yourself and include yourself in conversations.
Maybe expanding your friendship group will ease your fear
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