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writes: I have realy strong feelings about my female cousin although I would never act on them as she does not feel the same way. The trouble is that she fancies other lads and I get really jealous. Any advice on what I should do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): hey,
I understand what you're going through. I'm a guy and i also had a similar case. But there is nothing you can do about it. She's your cousin, you can't have her and she can never be yours. You just have to try to get her out of your system. I know it's NOT easy, but it's for your own good. You can't keep desiring what you know you can not have.
That's just the way it is mehn! you just have to try to get her out of your system.
Perhaps, one day, you might meet someone special. Like they say, there are many birds in the air.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2005): Only you can help yourself...by stopping these feelings of jealousy. It's choices, guy! It's plain to see that she is not interested in you (probably because SHE is your cousin)..and you have to stop these feelings of jealousy...all because she is attracted to other boys. Jealousy is not a healthy emotion...it's destructive and it invokes seething anger in oneself. Get it under control. Pops is right...mind your own business and allow her to live her life. It's highly likely because you both are blood related..she never will consider you as a love interest, anyways. Accept it..because that's just the way it is. Many people feel that blood related cousins who date is very taboo and wrong which is likely the reason she doesn't have these same feelings for you. So quit wasting your energy and time and stop pining away for her...get out and find a nice girl, enjoy life and have fun! If you can't quit being jealous and stop obssessing over her, get some counseling..because even in normal circumstance (unrelated females)...your feelings are bordering on being just plain creepy.
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reader, pops +, writes (4 August 2005):
They say America and Britain are divided by a common language, and this is one case where I just don't understand what is going on with British culture. No one should be having those kinds of feelings for a cousin, at least in the States. Somewhere in your upbrining, no one told you that having romantic interests in cousins is taboo. In most jurisdictions it is a crime. So stop. Get an extra job, or find a couple of new hobbies to take your mind off your cousin's love life. It is none of your business. If you can't do this, then seek mental health counselling before you get in trouble.
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