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anonymous
writes:Lately i been really jealous when my ex is aroung pretty girls we are best friends but its so tough when i finally over come it, get used to him talkin to one another one comes. Its making my life hell, i dont expect him not to talking to any of them, but it just feels like there goin to take my place. Usually when im with my ex with a group of ppl mainly boys he will give me attention treat me like his best friend, but if a girls there he will try n give her the same attention. I used to be his closest friend. Now i get extremley jealous and insecure if my ex is with one of my close friends it hurts me i actually have nothing to say to her when were all together. Its depressing he's made it clear we cant see eachother outside 1 on 1, only if its a group things it didnt bother me before but now he always asks my best friend to come along i hate it, this is the only time i see him out of school but he just wants her there he says its for me but i can see her whenever i want. He says he wants to see me likes seeing me etc, but it dont feel like it now. I feel like he wants to see her or just wants to distract me so i dont talk to him as much, its bad i dont want her there, these groups things used to be my time with him. I invite her out to other things, now its like she permanently apart of our group and either equal to me in his eyes which i hate or slightly better. I know im feeling petty but i cant help my feelings. Much advice appreciated x
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reader, marie jane renshaw +, writes (24 February 2010):
 to be honest i think he feels the same but doesnt want to show it, hes using her as a distraction for his feelings as he doesnt want you to know he has then.he might not want you 2 get with any1 else because of the same reason u have 4 him and he is using her 2 ensure that u dont meet any 1.never get jealous over ur ex with another girl as u may be jumping to concusions as they could just be friends ,some firends consider each other as part of their family.the more you react to this situation they close u may push together and that would hurt even more.just get on with ur life dnt let him see its affecting u,the more u act as if ur not bothered the more he'll want u back,trust me it works.
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reader, SophysticatedAss  +, writes (19 February 2010):
Try looking from a different perspective. Maybe you're just jealous because you still have feelings for him. Stop making him your sole purpose for going to those outings and maybe you'll overcome it when you find someone else or through time. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know this needs to be moved in questions
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