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writes:I would like to describe myself as a 29yr old male who seems to be in pretty good health and generally overall happy in life, apart from 1 thing, i will try and explain as best i can and hopefully recieve some feedback to the issues!!Here goes... well from what i can remember in my life ive always had crushes on women, i remember been in school and asking a few women out but all said no!! there were other women out there what did fancy me but i never give them or myself the opportunity to get to know them, like i was ashamed to be associated with them or uninterested this pattern keeps on going throughout my 20s!!1 night back when i was 21 me and my friend met a few ladies in the pub where we got drunk together and had a laugh, we ended up going back to a house where my friend took off and left me with 1 of the ladies. I sat next to her then in a flash she jumped on me and took my clothes off i felt so uneasy n uncomfortable that i wasnt able to get as full erection! I did manage to penetrate though but it went down and that was it. i felt to be honest like i didnt wanna do it, she did ask if it was my first time i just said no(it was)Now ever since then until a few months ago when talking to women i always get that uneasy/ uncomfortable feeling and would rather run a mile.. i have had a few short term gfs since the incident but i never felt comfortable so i always took the easy way out and ended it!About a month ago i think i realised something, i was on a stag weekend in a different city, where to this date now i had the best night of my life! i met a women and for the first time ever i felt a proper connection emotionally and physically like never before when just talking and dancing with her! it was like me and her were the only ones in this pub all though this couldnt go any further as she was married!Since that incident not very often though i get that odd spark out the blue when even sometimes just speaking normal to women. Sometimes i can be in a bar and go over and speak to a good looking girls and i feel that uneasy feeling again!!I know i need to grow some balls and ask 1 of these ladies out but im scared a repeat of last time will happen again or i may feel that uncomfortable feeling again.Ive questioned my sexuallity im sure im straight and only interested in women! but reading other forums asexuality seems to make more sense, but i feel now sometimes the attraction is there, maybe i just need to be in the right mood or have a very low sex drive?Thanks for taking time and reading this, i would appreciate any feedback if there is anything else you would like me to add just ask.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): first i suggest you get a hormone balance check-up. At the same time, i suggest you get female friends. Baby steps my friend. All pride aside they'll build your confidence up slow but steady.
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reader, marktd9 +, writes (11 October 2010):
Really, you've answered your own question. I know sometimes biting the bullet is scary as hell, but it has to be done my friend. Just go for it!
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