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writes:ugh!!!....u may have read my other plee for help...well to break it down I love my not gay best friend and he sayd he's not gay...well the new story is that he asked me to give him head...and he sayd it wouldn't change anything at all so I was like...okay I guess...and then I did and I talked to him the day after and then he was acting really weird...he's treating me different....wat should I do?...what should I say!!
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (18 August 2007):
 Well, he asked you to do it and probably knows how you feel about him. He also told you beforehand that it wouldn't change anything. Regardless if he is being confused about his own sexuality, just being curious or whatever; what he did to you was very disrespectful. From what you write I'm sorry to say that I think he is messing with your feelings, not caring at all that you can actually being hurt by this.
My advice is to NOT give him any more. You deserve giving it to someone who cares about your feelings. I even think you should actually tell him that him asking you for this is to lead you on to hope he might have other kind of feelings for you, and that it is wrong of him to treat you like this, asking you for sexual favours without feelings. He should know this is not right. Does he treat girls like this too? If someone did this to me I would have called him a heartless bastard, a player.
I'm sorry I sound harsch but this made me feel so angry. He is supposed to be your friend. And friends are supposed to take care of each others and respect each others feelings. If you have been friends for long it could be that he is developing mixed and confused feelings for you and there is a possibility he didn't have any intentions to hurt you (even though him telling you it won't change anything tells differently), but still he should shape up and talk to you about it. He is being a selfish jerk.
I hope he will come around after a while showing you more respect and treat you as you deserve, friend or lover or whatever he wants you to be to him. If he doesn't, be careful in the future with your friends. It could happen that you grow apart and that they will not be true friends anymore when it comes to this.
Take care of your heart, honey, wish you luck!
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (18 August 2007):
 Maybe he is gay but just afraid to admit it, or maybe he thought what he asked you to do was wrong because of who he is and is now worried that he messed with your head so he is acting differently as to not give you any more wrong impressions.
Try talking to him and finding out how he is feeling about the whole issue.
Take care.xx.
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