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writes:I gave my boyfriend naked pics and a video of us. He keeps it in his laptop. I did as a private thing between he and I but lately every now and then he says thing like "they(the pictures)belong to me, and I can do what I want with them" I told him I would hate him forever if he were to share them with anyone because their not his property their ours. I don't want anyone seeing our private moments. This has clearly been my biggest mistake ever. Everytime he says something like "their mine" it makes me loose some of my trust in him because it hurts me to feel so vulnerable. That kind of exposure can ruin my future. I just want to know can I take any legal action againts him. If he were to reveal those pictures to anyone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2010): I have herd of people taking ex partners or partners to court and winning for sharing personal photos.
if you don't care if he gets mad and he never see's his computer information again use a program to wipe all the data.
my suggestion is to google a program called killdisk, install the program and run the program and he can say good bye to all the data on his computer. (takes a long time to wipe everything)
I would also check to make sure his made no backups of them,check disk's, memory sticks or external hard drives
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2010): I'd kill the laptop, any of the previous recommendations (which would work for nice boys, as if a humble request wouldn't) can't work; backups, extra copies and etc can and will be used to circumvent any deletions.
Please post the make and model of the laptop, and I can tell you exactly where to hit to make sure the HDD is toast. Then dump the prick. And then, don't sent nudes to anybody, ever. You need to keep it all "eyes only" or "no comment".
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (10 January 2010):
 The photos are your property if you're the photographer, videographer, and even if they were given voluntarily, he has no license to circulate them to just anyone. In other words if he tried to use them in anyway, other than for personal use, I'm certain a good lawyer would ruin his life.
Money damages and an injunction are typical in cases like the one you described.
However, the real issue here is why is he using something given to him out of love purely to give him some happiness, why are these things being used as a weapon?
Does he love you? It seems when he does these things he's hurting you, not just your trust but you. And this kind of teasing isn't teasing, its cruelty.
I think you should sit down and talk to him about this and ask him politely and nicely to delete them. If not, see how he likes making love to his files from now on, and probably giving his lawyer oral sex for getting him off this hook.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (10 January 2010):
Unfortunately there is not a lot you can do legally, the damage will all ready have been done.
What you can do is get him to delete the files (and make sure he empties the recycle bin.)
You can do this the nice way... "sell him" a blow job for every one he deletes in front of you or something like that.
Or you can yell at him and point out that you could have given him SO MUCH more but he's making sure that you never trust him with anything again. Tell him he's putting you off doing anything nice to him EVER. Make him delete them in front of you AND buy you dinner.
Good Luck!! xx
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