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writes:I have a boyfriend I love him so much and he loves me back too. We are already 3 years and 6 months. He can't live without me, but when we were still in our 1st year of relationship, he moved in another location, which is very distant from where we are now. He had about 5 girlfriends and I hated him for that. We always fight and I really like to break up with him. But I still gave him a chance.Now he is very loyal and he showed me that the chance I gave him was not wasted. But!!! I think I'm falling for his bestfriend now. I don't want to end our relationship because I can see a future with him. We have been planning our future for years, but I just can't seem to control my heart. I don't know what to do!!! His bestfriend is also similar to him but more mature in attitude. I don't want this feeling!~ Help!
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (5 July 2007):
It would be really mean to get involved with your man’s friend. Being betrayed by both the woman he loves and his best friend would be terrible for him. So this is not an option, whatever happens between you and your man. If you have been together for 3 and a half years, then you were very young when you met. I’m afraid that maybe you were too young for a life-time commitment, and now are starting to drift away. The previous responder was right, you will always find other men attractive, it’s something we have to deal with in a long term relationship. But if you are falling in love, then that is more serious. Promise yourself that you are absolutely not going to get together with his friend, ever. Then concentrate on whether your relationship can get over this, or whether you need to go your separate ways. At least, if you are brave enough to do that, you will leave him with his best friend still around for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007): if i were you i'd think carefully. this is your mans best friend. its ok to fancy someone else. Just because you are in a relationship does'nt mean you stop finding other people attractive. but if you have feelings towards this guy then you may not love your man as much as you think. sometimes when the trust has been broken it cannot be mended no matter how much you try. you may well see this guy as a distraction from your unhappy relationship. have a serious think about what you want from your man and what you want for you future. just remember if you try it on with this guy it is a recipe for disaster no matter which way you look at it.
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