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writes:I was with my ex for two years, we've been split though for 8 months now. We had plans to get married eventually, and were each other's firsts sexual experience, or so I thought. I haven't stopped crying over him, and I'm still in love with him even though he's been dating his ex now for about 5 months. He was giving me mixed signals, and is now just ignoring me. Today I found out though, that when we were still together probably in the beginning of the relationship he slept with another woman. For two years I thought we were both virgins, and I feel more than mortified. Please help on what I can do to cope with this.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (13 March 2008):
 What a jerk! Just remember this: you are not alone. I'm sure that there are plenty of other guys who have pulled the same thing on other women, and vice versa. Anyways, it's hard to stop loving someone sometimes even if they screwed us over. Not only did he lie to you, but he used you, and you can see that clearly since now he is ignoring you. What happened to you was not your fault. However, I've used experiences similar to yours (ie a guy pretending to be crazy over me then ignoring me) I've used experiences similar to yours in that now when a guy acts gaga over me, I don't take it too seriously. Time will dull the pain. Sometimes you might feel numb or just in between. Try to hang in there. Maybe counseling will help. Or getting revenge. Whatever works best for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): It is over so stop beating yourself up about it. You have had a lucky escape if this is how he is, sly! Please just take each day as it comes and the hurt will go away in time. You will meet someone else, but first give yourself some time on your own to get to know yourself and enjoy the freedom. Dont dwell on what might of been (the wedding etc), it is all in the past, and after what you have said, you are well rid.
Take care
xx
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