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writes:Hi!Please help!I've been with a man for almost 3 years now...and recently he told me he has this sexual thing for inflatables...(he likes to masterbate with them and deflate them and such) when we were first together he mentioned it but I never gave it much thought...So recently he has been sleeping with inflatable objects on (childrens vests..arm floaties..ect).I am totally ill at ease with this as he then proceeded to tell me he feels more comfortable in womans clothing and asked me if he could wear mine around the house...I am totally grossed out by this, and although I love him alot I find it very desturbing. He has even gone so far as to tell me he wanted to have sex with me wearing an inflatable!!!So about a week later after I told him time and time again he turns to me and says "oh...I don't feel that way anymore" and expects me to disregard everything he was doing!!What do I do? accourding to his friends before he met me he wanted to have a sex change and become a woman..he then got involved with a church who told him if he did that he was going to hell...so i wonder...how much of my relationship is him hiding from his true self out of fear? I don't want to find out years from now he's been lying to me this whole time....PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): Hi Hun,
This is the same pattern that my ex used, he has told you his secret expecting you to understand and now because he realises you cant and really dont want to all of a sudden, Its gone.
My husband was very violent to the point of trying to kill me, as no matter how much he wanted to keep me he still wanted to be a woman and everytime he looked at me would get angry and jelous. He told me 100s of times the feelings had gone, And I would still find things that suggested otherwise he also did things that would involve the police to come to the house and doctors would visit, Then when all the truth did come out he wanted me to leave my children to go with him to fulfill his dream as he put it...He was taken to a mental hospital in the end.
Thats the only way I got away from him.
This doesnt go away its something to deep within love no matter how angry he gets its there and he probably wishes he had never told you now, I found my ex was relieved when he told me and just expected me to go with the flow. I dont think so YOU TAKE CARE OF YOU LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMandy...
Thanks for your insight...he is now telling me he doesn't feel that way and that it was "just a phase"
I don't understand why he would say that he felt that way...take it back, or...try...
and then he has the nerve to get angry at me when I tell him I know he is lying....argh...
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reader, sexi  +, writes (14 September 2007):
 Hi
I think you need to give this guy some time for him to figure out who he is. You should let him decided who he is an dwho he is comfortable being. Once that is done then you can establish whether the hitch in your relationship can be mended or not. You rather find out the nasty truth now then later.It might be hard but atleast then you would know what you have to deal with.
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2007): Hi Love.
Unfortunatly I was married to a man who after we married and had our little girl told me he wanted to be a woman, Oh he was serious so I no where your coming from...
He was extremely violent when he couldnt get his own way, And hun he made me very ill, as when it came out that was it, it couldnt be taken back.
He to used to wear certain womens clothing, Im of spiritual nature Everyone to there own and all but I didnt want this for me or my children.
Plus it scared me as I never new what was going to happen, He was a nasty bully with it, I hope this isnt the same for you.
As time went on it just got terrible, He to told me he didnt want it anymore, But that was to keep me...
He did alsorts of stuff behind my back, and ended up in prison. 6yrs I went through this self absorbed behaviour and once they have this inside it isnt going away no matter what they say, Its deep inside of that person, I had a breakdown and ended up in hospital.
You sweetheart have to decide what makes you happy not worry and uncomfortable, This is not a healthy relationship It will screw with your head and make you ill, He should go and do what he wants and have the decency to let you get on with your life and one day meet a partner who will be there and love you without all this,
Plus he should be seeing a counsellor, Before you have to.
You cannot live like this hun its soul destroying...PLEASE TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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