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writes:I want to start off by saying I am not trying to interfer with my son's life and I jsut being cncerned.My youngest son Steven has been dating his girlfriend Lora on and off for 2 yrs. They met through friends about 4 yrs ago but they both where in other relationships but became friends. when Lora got pregnant her then boyfriend left and Steven (25yrs old) was there for her. Shortly after her son was born they started dating. Lora (24yrs old)is a sweet young girl and I adore her. she is a wonderful mother and I think of her son as my first grandson. BUT they have never hard a great relationship, they have broken up and gotten back together so many times that I lost count. They seemt o get along great for a few months then it all turns sour. I have brought this to there attention many times only because I don't want anythign to effect Liam (lora's son). Steven is wonderful when it comes to Liam, he loves him dearly. Before christmas they broke up and Steven moved back home with us. Last month they got back tgether and he said he woudl liek to buy house for the 3 of them. I didn't think it was a good idea but I didn't say anything. Yesterday when I was on the computer, Steven had be using it first and he didnt log out and there was a message he had sent to Lora. I know I shouldn't have read it but I did. In the letter it said that he was so happy that they were trying to have a baby together !! I don't think a couple who break up every other nonth should be trying to have a baby. I am worried that they may be thinking a baby will help their relationship. I did the same thing when I was married, Steven was our "trying to save our marriage baby" but we all know that a baby only adds more stress to a relationship. Should try talking to either one of them or shoudl I pretend I didn't read the noteThank you.
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reader, MonksDaBomb  +, writes (4 May 2010):
 I would say something. If they're on-again, off-again, a baby is only going to make things worse. And if Steven gets angry with you (which he will!), then tell him you're concerned for the baby who is going to be handed off to so many different people if their relationship doesn't work out.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 May 2010):
I have to be honest, I'd say something. Your son may be mad, but you are absolutely right that this will end in tears and stress. I think you should just say that he'd been on the computer and had left his message on the screen, and you saw it. Then remind him that the relationship won't work out if they have a baby together and don't solve their problems as they are. If he chooses not to listen, don't say another word and let him make his mistake. At the end of it, sometimes we have to learn by messing up. And if the only way he will learn is by messing up, then he has to mess up. But before that, don't be afraid to talk to him.
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reader, Indianchic +, writes (3 May 2010):
You should tell him that you happen to read the message, it was not intentional , you were not being nosey but as a mother you want to talk to him as you have more experience that he does and try and state the pros and cons of his decision, end of the day it will be his decision but you a a mother would do your duty too and will not blame yourself later by thinking, I should have spoken to him.....
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