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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I went out with my ex girlfriend for 2 and a half years. We were very close, maybe at times too close. I am the first to admit I can be a little clingy. She started acting differently towards the end of our relationship, and then finally broke it off one day in August. This was a shock to me. I never expected it to end so abruptly. I didn't see my ex for about a month.Then as time went by we started meeting back up again, and really starting to get on better than ever before. All this time though she was reluctant to get back with me because she said she feared I would slip back into my old clingy ways. We ended up sleeping together in October and she seemed really upset. I could feel something wasn't right so I confronted her and she told me she had slept with somebody after we broke up and she felt terrible for not telling me. Eventually I saw past this and we continued meeting up and spending time together.Since then things seemed perfect, getting on better than ever before and we even talked about the idea of us getting back together but she still said she needed time. Last night I heard from my friend that this person wasn't the only person she had slept with, she had also slept with her ex after we had broken up. I was devastated, I went round hers today to ask her about this and she admitted it, but then there was something else...She burst into tears and told me that the guy I already knew about actually happened during the last few days of our relationship and that was why she had acted so differently and ended it. She said she was tired of me being clingy and in her words 'controlling' and she slept with this guy. She said she regretted it straight away but could never told me because she feared my reaction. Its worth pointing out now that I do see where she is coming from, I do place so much emphasis on the relationship and over react more than most people. I find it very very hard to deal with heartache.She says the more time went by and we were getting on so well, she more she found it so hard to tell me because she didn't want to ruin what seemed a healthy relationship. I don't know what to think now. I still love her so much and I've never seen her so upset about anything. I do want to believe that this won't happen again. But at the same time, I feel like a fool and I find it hard to get my head around how she could do this to me.She wants to see me tomorrow to talk again. I really don't know what to do. I've never felt this hurt.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): Forgive her and be with her...love her the past is the past.Ive been in your situation and from what you say you really care about this girl. Love her and never let her go, just give her the space that she needs when she needs it.
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